Why Your Goal Setting Failed Again This Year
(and it's only February...)
Kevin Hogan
Warning:Parts of this article will be particularly painful
to read and very politically incorrect...only problem....it is all
...the facts...
Not too long ago, you were all fired up and eager to move ahead
on your New Year Resolutions or whatever you called them.
You set your "Sixty Days to Success in 2008" or "Ninety Days to
Gnarly Results" or something equally is cute or maybe, "2008
I will finally be great."
The year of your breakthrough....
Result...
Nothing.
Oh, wait there is a result....
How do you feel about yourself upon brief analysis?
Like garbage. Embarrassed to your self, though maybe not to others...yet.
You've even tried to place or project the blame and responsibility from yourself to
someone else.
You'd have been better off not setting goals because, frankly, this is the result
you get most of the time...
You put a LOT of thought into your goals, got clear about the changes
you wanted to make, you conceived a genius plan that would undoubtedly
change your life forever, and waited for that magical date... January
1st to arrive.... After all, the holidays are no time to set goals...goals conflict
with family and family comes first. (If you had that set of thoughts, you had
guaranteed failure from square one.)
When the clock struck midnight on December 31st, it was full steam ahead!
You were off to a great start and confidently began taking the steps you
knew would lead you directly to the life of your dreams!
And then . . . maybe a couple of days later, maybe even a couple of weeks
later, you began losing steam. At first it may have been small
things, like bumping into a few minor obstacles or struggling to find
time to work on your goals consistently; but before you knew it, you
found yourself feeling unmotivated, tired, angry, frustrated . . . and
finally wondered what you were thinking when you set these stupid
goals, anyway.
You must have been out of your mind to think that you
could achieve something so big - you've never been able to do it
before, right?
And no one supported you in the first place when you told them....and instead
of going out and proving them wrong, your nonconscious mind "figured
out" the simplest way for you to go on living with the least amount of effort
possible.
STOP
Two things before we go on.
Your nonconscious doesn't "figure out" anything. It is like a computer
preloaded with software. It either does or doesn't do stuff based on what is
already on the computer. If you have a neat photo album program but it
doesn't allow for photo editing and extensive touch ups, then you would
have to buy a program like Photoshop, download, learn and then you
would use it.
Because that doesn't happen in your real life very often, your nonconscious
requires very little "maintenance." It just keeps on ticking as it is. It drives
the bus that is your brain.
Second, "your goals."
Don't "have goals" that you are going to "work on."
Turn the page to discover what a goal is SUPPOSED to be.
