Also, regardless of how attractive people themselves are, they seem to judge others’ attractiveness in similar ways, supporting the notion that we have largely universal, culturally independent standards of beauty (e.g. symmetric faces).
These results indicate that people’s own attractiveness does not affect their judgment of others’ attractiveness.
KEYPOINT: People of different physical attractiveness levels might instead vary the importance they place on different desirable qualities in their dates.
KEYPOINT: Lee and colleagues conducted a follow-up speed-dating study in which more attractive people placed more weight on physical attractiveness in selecting their dates, while less attractive people placed more weight on other qualities (e.g. sense of humor). Need to cite this story in your essay, paper, or report? Use one of the following formats:
Adapted from Association for Psychological Science (2008, February 14). Beauty Bias: Can People Love The One They Are Compatible With?ScienceDaily.
Retrieved from http://www.sciencedaily.com; /releases/2008/02/080211094943.htm
Although changing facial characteristics is a tough thing to do, there are other factors in overall attractiveness (weight for example) that are controllable.
And how those factors add up can make a big
difference over the course of a short life (in the case of children) or a long life (once adulthood is reached all the way to what is left behind for the family.
Decision Point--Learning to Make the Right Decisions
that Will Finally Lead You to Your Destiny
7
weeks, and if you've ever taken one of my e-courses, yes, it's like
them. :-)
You’ve been
thinking of getting a divorce but your husband does bring in a decent
income. There are other fish in the sea but you wonder if you can still
compete. Can you do better? What about the kids? What do you DECIDE? How do you
decide?
Moving is always
tough but when there are more than one person’s job or one person
going to a school that they love and the possibility of leaving friends behind
makes for what many consider an impossible decision. What do YOU decide? How do
you decide?
Your investments
have done OK but your total income saved for your future is terrible.
There are a lot of options you’ve been told about but you really don’t know
what to do. What will you decide? How will you decide?
A relative lives
with you. They take advantage of you but you can’t let them go
because you don’t know what will happen to them. What is the right thing to
do and will that thing be what you decide? How will you decide?
An elderly relative
lives with you. They can’t take care of themselves any more. You hate
the idea of a nursing home or “worse.” You also want “a life.” What
will you decide to do?
You are a manager
at your company and only have enough budget to pursue one product line.
You can choose between an almost sure thing with a very modest return or a
riskier proposal that could make you a superstar. What do you decide? How do
you make the decision?
You’re on your
way home for the holidays. You get stuck in bad weather and are put up
at a local hotel. In the bar that night a beautiful woman strikes up a
conversation with you and she has offered you the key to her room. What will
you decide?
Your wife is two
months pregnant. A test reveals the baby is going to be born with a
disease that will require your 24/7 care for the rest of your life. She decides
she wants to keep the baby. But you haven’t made your decision. What will you
decide to do? How will you make the decision?
Your home has a
horrible defect that you can cover easily in the selling process and
the defect almost certainly won’t be discovered for years. Revealing it will
reduce the price of your home $100,000. What will you decide to do? How will
you decide?
You can stay at
your present job which you really don’t like that much and live on a
predictable but very modest income or you can pursue a venture that has about a
70% chance of success and if it succeeds, you would double your income. What do
you decide to do? How do you decide?
You are involved in
a custody battle for your children. One of the kids is misbehaving
terribly and you don’t know whether you should spank them or discipline them
firmly. The result could easily effect the results of the custody hearing. What
do you do? How do you decide?
Two women have
taken a liking to you. You date them both for some time. They both
begin to talk about moving in and a permanent relationship. One is the kind of
person you feel comfortable with and would be easy to love. The other is 10
years younger and is celebrity beautiful. Unfortunately she knows it and enjoys
being the center of attention. What do you decide? How do you decide?
And those are just a few
of the decisions that face real people every day. Decisions that people are
forced into and have no idea what to do or how to do it.
THIS COURSE shows you
how to make ALL of the decisions above.
And it’s important to
note, that the right decision easily can be different from person to person.
Knowing how to evaluate THAT is crucial to everything you will do…but no one
ever does it….
If you haven’t
taken an e-course with me: an E-course with me is not like an E-course as
thought of by the rest of the world. With me an E-course means you will have
instruction in several media forms. Video, audio and text. There is NO specific
time you must meet with me every day.
About 50% of the people
who take my courses collect all the materials and work at their own pace later.
The other half work with me and sometimes with other participants when
necessary, on projects that are necessary to learning how to make RIGHT
DECISIONS.
My courses are
universally known to be challenging, results-oriented, pragmatic and show you
EXACTLY how to get where you want to go.
Decision making is a
function of thinking that almost 90% of people do very poorly. Most people
think that if something turns out well, they made a good decision. If something
turns out poorly they made a bad decision.
And that conditioning is
one of the biggest reasons why people are poor decision makers.
Decision making is first
and foremost about MAKING DECISIONS IN THE FIRST PLACE.
Every day, people
vacillate on making changes in their lives that they KNOW are absolutely
necessary, but they decide to do nothing and hope for the best, only to live a
life where nothing ever changes.
This is where we begin.
Elimination of
PROCRASTINATION and VACILLATION.
You will learn how to
recognize situations where you are about to commit acts of self-sabotage.
I’ll show you how to identify it long before it becomes an issue. I’ll show
you how to crush self-sabotage so you can make a CHOICE instead of only having
the ability to stay with the Status Quo.
This first week’s
module alone will be worth the investment in the course.
How would you like to
NEVER procrastinate again?
What would happen if you
could actually MOVE in the DIRECTION that you want to, even if it is ONLY AWAY
FROM WHERE YOU ARE TODAY?!
By the end of week one,
you will have daily projects to do for several weeksthat will almost literally beat the habits of self-sabotage and
procrastination from your life.
Most people don’t know
that procrastination is a habit you picked up, but it is NOT your fault.
The same is true of
self-sabotage.
I will explain why, where
it all started, why it happens to everyone and why it must be eradicated
intentionally and with no little effort. By the END of the course, IF YOU
FOLLOW the Decision Point Plan, you will have eliminated procrastination and
almost all forms of self-sabotage.
I’ll
explain in detail why self-sabotage is a little trickier and lurks in
EVERYONE’S back yard waiting to strike. I’ll show you how to get rid of it
and then prevent it so you never have to deal with it in the future.
And that is only week
one!
How we doin’ so far?!
Decision
IS Destiny
If you could point to one word, to one factor, to one element or cause of
what happens to you in your life, it is decision.
You make decisions all the time. Generally speaking, the more decisions a
person makes, the more successful they are.
The better a person is at making decisions, the more successful they are.
When you move from your old home to the home you are in now; maybe you moved
because you wanted a bigger house, or to put the kids in a better school
district. Maybe it was just closer to where your job is…more convenient.
And of course in the case of uprooting and moving your family, you’re
talking about a lot of variables, a lot of things to consider. You’re going
to find out how to make the right decision in which house to buy and where to
move.
What about leaving your job for some other opportunity?
FEAR enters the picture quite clearly and because the future is
seemingly unpredictable, you feel frozen or stuck as to what to do, so you
immediately default to stay in your same job. But there is a way to make this
decision much easier. And you’ll be pleasantly surprised when you do….
But there are also the smaller decisions of life.
Which movie to go see…
Which show to watch on TV….
What to make for dinner…
Whether to go to the game or stay home….
Whether to take a vacation with or without the kids…
Whether to wear blue or black…
There is a simple method that takes little thinking at all to make these day to
day decisions.
And then there are decisions that you make that influence other people’s
lives like taking a new job, going into business for yourself, moving to a new
area, having a surgery that has risks involved….
How do you know what to do? Don’t worry, most people haven’t got
a clue as to how to make the right decision every time, and there is a right
decision to make.
Then there are Destiny Decisions…those decisions that you make that
will literally determine where you are going to be in three years or five
years.
These are REALLY IMPORTANT decisions. Every day I see people screwing them
up as if they are no big deal.
You’ll find out a methodical system that might take a very short amount of
time or significantly longer depending on circumstances. Nevertheless, you will
find out exactly what to do every time.
Obviously there are plenty of Black Swan's (unexpected random events like
hurricanes and terrorism) out there to get in the way of what you want in life,
but nothing you can control impacts your life more than decision.
Write that down.
Put it on the refrigerator.
That alone is worth $10,000, yes?
Nothing you can control impacts your life more than decision.
How would life be different if you knew you were going to make the
right decision, every time?
(Every time?!)
Did you know that in life, there is almost always a best decision?
What would happen if you had the method for decision?
What would it be worth to have a simple systematic approach to decision
making where the guidelines are from your head and heart?
Most people are paralyzed with uncertainty about whether they should:
Ask the girl to marry them.
Make a purchase.
Move from one place to another...
Quit their job...
Decide between committing one person or another.
Start a business...
Ask the girl to go out with them...
Send the letter or not...
Decide between hiring one person or another.
Get a divorce....
Send your kids to public or private school....
Choose between a new car, a used car or no car....
Go back to school to get more education....
Fire the person or not.
Invest in stocks, bonds, real estate and not screw up.
Accurately plan for their future in all areas.
Why Do People Make Bad Decisions?
And...they make bad decisions because...we all have about 8-10 areas of failure in
our brain….similar experiences where you make the wrong decisions over and
over again.
(Like marrying the same guy five times, dating jerks, working for idiots,
saying the wrong thing at the worst time, etc. Sound familiar?)
We’ll repair all of that. (If we don’t, life will be the same tomorrow
as it has been in the past….)
Did you know there is a proven way to make the right decision in each of
the above choices?
Now STOP.
For the sake of discussion, let's assume that is correct. There IS a method
you can use to make the RIGHT decision just about every time.
It doesn't take a genius to think, "I decide to make more money,"
"lose weight," "get a better job," "get married to
perfect person x".
KEY: Learning the process of making the right decision involves
making that decision STICK, be UNYIELDING and barring a Black Swan,
guaranteeing you will follow through.
Over the last 15 years we've been fortunate to have studied the raw
information about how to make laser beam accurate decisions. Complex software
programs have shown scientists how to simplify the decision making process
using some mostly simple (sorry, it's not ALL instantly easy!) rules.
And now, you don't need the software or the computer any more...
And, by the way, in the last 15 years there has been an incredible amount of
research done about decision making that teach and use VERY FAULTY processes,
that can't and don't work.
KEY: You'll experience FIRST HAND, how what seems to be an obvious
decision, is almost always the wrong one....the costly one...(often the
disaster one....)
If you follow that teacher's advice, you'll flat out screw up.
You'll end up with next to nothing and headaches and heartaches to boot.
Why?
People, including a lot of authors, are lazy.
They don't do the research.
They don't test.
Why should they?
They get paid the same no matter what and when YOU screw up, they just say,
"you did it wrong."
Play along for just a moment.
Can I ask you a question?
Have you ever read that it's been proven that 93% of all communication is
body language?
Of course, lots of times. Everyone has read that.
And of course, it's not true.
(It's not even close to accurate.)
How could that be, it's common knowledge...isn't it?
There was one study done by a brilliant communication researcher 35 years
ago that evaluated people saying one word to another, with the other person
only being able to see the person from the neck UP. (that leaves about 90% of
the body out of the study.) In this one specific instance, Dr. Mehrabian found
that about 93% of the communication sent was at a nonverbal level. Obviously
when people communicate with more than one word and people can see below the
neck, all kinds of factors change the percentages.
Problem is people read something in a book written by Goofball X and they
believe what she writes because she says it's "scientific."
People look at their lives and think, "I did everything I was
told..."
Yep and look at that life. It didn't work.
The guru didn't do the research. They went with the party line and taught
that.
I don't care about the party line because I don't like the people at the
party.
Remember when Benjamin Franklin did his famous experiment about testing each
of the virtues (temperance and so forth) for a month so he could eventually
become adept at all of them? I've heard most motivational speakers talk or
write about this. I'd name them, but it would take an entire page...
Anyway...You remember... but he gave up the idea after the first week ...he
never did the experiment. He wrote early in his biography that he was going to
do the project and then soon after decided not to. Basically he said it was
impossible to do such a thing.
I've never heard ANYONE get that right, either.
But THEY TEACH YOU TO DO IT...
And because you trust them YOU TRY IT and FAIL.
Franklin's personal challenge didn't work for all kinds of reasons I'll show
you later.
Question: Why did you believe he actually did the project?
Only one reason: ...because someone you trusted or believed, an author, a
teacher....told you that it was true.
Want a quick way to filter a crummy guru out?
If they tell you that story, they didn't get very far in Franklin's
biography. If they tell you that, they'd tell you anything.
By the way...what did Franklin do instead?!
I'll show you that at Decision Point, too.
The point is that MOST of the stuff people tell you to do.... that is
"scientific," that is based on laws of the universe or proven
techniques is nothing more than their imagination having run wild.
...and following their advice will get you the same ultimate destination,
every time...
Back to Start. (If you don't go into foreclosure first.)
So why don't the vast majority of people make good decisions?
Why are people AFRAID to make decisions at all?
They've been given crummy information and worse methods for how to choose
and what to do.
It's that simple.
(OK, there are eight other core reasons people make crummy decisions
every day, but to pick on your neighbor here is so not cool...)
And what does the Power of Decision Point give you in life?
Choice
Personal freedom
No limits
The Ability to Succeed When Most Others Fail
The Ability to Make Big Changes in Life with Ease
and...
Wealth if You Want It
A LOT Better Life If You USE The Power of Decision
Success when you use The Power of Decision.
You're going to learn it ALL in this 7 Week E-Course.
If you’ve been in an E-Course with me, you know that although they are
always convenient, they are also densely packed with practical, real life
application as the end result. That is the same here. Everything you learn will
be immediately applied to a crucial part of your life because there is a LOT
going on in your life right now and a LOT of it has to change but you don’t
know WHAT.
Each week you’ll receive a number of emails or documents from me. You’ll
have homework assignments that are all real-life based…your life. You’ll be
given audio’s to listen to or video to watch. You will once again, find out
what “over delivery” means!
You're going to discover:
How People Decide
Why Most People Make Almost All Bad Decisions
How to KNOW What to do...
The Four Factors of Luck and How to Tilt the "Luck
Factor" in
YOUR Favor.
How to Beat the Black Swan when Bad Luck Strikes....
All of the Successful Strategies for Decision Including Decision Point: MY
PERSONAL SYSTEM
Do you sell something for a living?
[Pay attention- I'm going to show you how to analyze how your client WILL
DECIDE on buying your product or service...and I'll show you WHAT is going to
happen next...think that might be worth $10,000?!]
I've never given the system for DECISION POINT to anyone.
I'm not going to write about it in Coffee....ever.
But the time is now to experience a truly transformational experience in an
exciting and unique E-course.
I PROMISE YOU:
No one else is going to ever show you this information. You'll never
experience these experiences with anyone else. You can't find anything remotely
similar "out there."
So essentially, you're stuck spending seven weeks with me. As with all of my
E-Courses, I am your PERSONAL COACH and you don't have to be at any specific
place at any specific time. The program is delivered via audio, video, and
text.
So what's going to happen in these seven fascinating weeks?
I'll personally show you the problems you face when you make
decisions.
You'll find out the impact of other people on your decision.
I'll show you how to minimize the NEGATIVE impact of other
people on your decisions, including the people you might love or work with
every day.
You won't regret your decisions anymore.
You'll
understand how to MINIMIZE RISK and MAXIMIZE RETURN on both business
and personal decisions.
I'll show you EXACTLY what to do when
the RIGHT decision you determine, FEELS completely wrong.
Finding
out how your beliefs, faith, values and lifestyle factor into your
decisions matters a lot to you. No one else shows you how to be true to
yourself and others around you while you decide for your Self or for many.
Almost forgot...
At the end of the course, you will have one cool, big Coffee Table-Sized
Manual that you will be able to refer to forever.
Almost all of my E Courses are $10,000.
However, this is only the second time I've offered Decision Point and so you
can be considered as part of the Beta group. That means that I, too, will learn a few
things in this course. I'm going to find out what the easiest ways to explain
the decision processes of successful people. So your tuition is NOT $10,000... but only $2,997. So as to not dent the bank account,
you can also do monthly payments over the next 6 months that make this
very affordable. However, when you pre-apply, you can save over $1000 on tuition! See the application form below for current discounts.
A couple things before you apply!
I reserve the right to reject any application for any reason.
There will be a few group projects that are necessary for making decisions
where two people are involved, instead of just you (as in a marriage, with
kids, or at work). If you are unwilling to e-mail one of your fellow
participants during these two projects do not apply.. I'm not interested.
Everything is yours to keep, but you may not share or give away any of
this information to anyone for at least three years from the date your
application is accepted.
If you don't know me, my reputation, if you wonder if this is a "good
idea" then DO NOT REGISTER. It has to be a no-brainer.
If you're still here then I look forward to seeing your application!
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