Subliminally Influenced To Be Sabotaged....By Your Friends?
Some of Your Best Friends are Influencing You to Fail...It Might Be Working
...And They May Not Be Aware of It...
By Kevin Hogan
Your friends and loved ones? Really?
Why would they want to even quietly persuade you to fail at your goals?
Don't they support you because they love you?
What persuasive weapons of sabotage are they using?
Are there any friends who are "on your side?"
How can you tell the difference....or even spot the influence in the first place?
Can you influence your own outcomes for the results you want over detractors?
Could you be seen as kind, polite and a solid human being yet be disliked
instantly?
[Mark Ryan, our upcoming Influence: Boot Camp 2011 Special Guest, will be presenting for
one FULL half day on Subliminal Influence. He has convinced me...
in some group settings not to detail the difference between Subliminal,
Supraliminal, Peripheral, Contextual, Environmental, Interpersonal, Intrapersonal and Media... Influences. I am temporarily persuaded and will save such discussion for finer points in next week's Coffee and my upcoming books.]
Sometimes you're sitting next to a friend or listening to them talk on the phone, and they tell you they want to lose weight, or maybe finally start their own Coffee Table Business at home.
You hear them, and with some people, you immediately feel this sense of requirement
to take up their cause, and influence them to "make it happen."
That's what we'd all want to expect we'd do...but the vast majority
of people don't. The vast majority of people nonconsciously sabotage
some of the goals you have.
KEYPOINT: The vast majority
of your friends nonconsciously sabotage
you and your goals.
What is the Problem with Your Goals?
SOME GOALS you have are acceptable in the minds of some friends.
Many goals and dreams you have are not acceptable in the minds of friends and
family.
For some goals you have, your friend(s) take the polar opposite "point of view",
and they not only wish you ill on your new endeavor, they actually take some
kind of action to make it difficult for you to move in the direction of your outcome.
Perhaps they offer a piece of candy to the future you...minutes after you
have stated that you want to be The Next Thinner Person....
But why?
Why would one friend not want to see another friend succeed...
Why would YOUR FRIEND take up a (sometimes subtle) cause,
AGAINST your Future Achievement?!
Three facts surface from research into this grow field of Learning What Influences The Goals of Others:
- Sometimes when you want to achieve something, there are a lot of
people in your life with a vested interest in you maintaining your Status Quo.
- Often what you want to achieve runs counter to what the other person's goals
are for either you, or themselves...and half the time they aren't even consciously
aware of this fact.
- Random Triggers in other people's environments can cause them to
do and say amazingly foolish things to thwart your goal efforts.
After all, if you find out how easy it really is to start your own Coffee Table Biz
or drop 10 pounds, you just made a lot more money and lost a lot more weight
than your ante-cheerleader friend or relative!
Sometimes, your friend is aware of their intention to sabotage your success and
future achievement. Sometimes they aren't aware at all. It literally can all happen
reactively in the nonconscious part of the brain.
Are your friends Agents of Sabotage?... 
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Kevin Hogan
Network 3000 Publishing
16526 W. 78th St. #138
Eden Prairie, MN 55346
(612) 616-0732
Coffee cup photo appears under license with Stockexpert. Article photo appears under license with istockphoto/dorgachov.
