The Antidote for the Pain of Rejection
by Kevin Hogan
Rejection and our Physical & Emotional Health
Rejection has varying effects on us both emotionally and
physically. Taking a closer look at the process that we undergo
in these stressful situations, rejection can lead to severe
negative effects in people's lives.
If you think back you can probably pinpoint several times in your life where you have been
affected by rejection to the point of emotional distress and
possibly even to the point of physical pain or other health
Maybe the increased aggression that you were feeling (as a
direct result of the rejection) made you experience one or more
things like anxiety, depression, strange illnesses that had no
apparent physical cause....
The effects of rejection in our lives can lead
to an increased risk of all types of health problems and can
lead to further devastating tolls on your health and in our
lives. But it doesn't stop there.
Rejection And It's Relationship To Your Self-Esteem
Let's take an in-depth look at how rejection affects your self-esteem and how those effects keep us from taking the steps
necessary to creating success in your business or personal lives.
Rejection and your self-esteem work together to shape your life
in both positive and negative ways. The workings of rejection
play out against your inner happiness, your family life and in your
business or career.
Rejection is a very complex piece of the pie of life.
Once you truly understand what it is and how it affects your self-esteem, you can learn how to use rejection and it's warning signs
as tools to enhance rather than destroy your personal and
business life as well as the lives of those around you.
Take a look at your life…
Let me ask you a question. When rejection is about to happen
to you, does your body give you specific WARNING signs?
Do you feel a "gut warning?"
- What rejection do you personally face?
- What rejection have you faced in the past?
- Remember how it felt?
- Do you struggle with it daily in some area of your life?
Of course you do.
You can FEEL it coming.
EXCEPT YOUR FEELINGS AREN'T ALWAYS RIGHT!!!!!
Sometimes you probably even wonder why they said YES
- Do you feel yourself backing away from the situation…
- Shutting down… hiding the "Real You"?
You find yourself in a situation where you can shine… your
moment to step up to the plate and let 'em see what you've got…
what you're all about… what you're capable of… and "BAM"… you
You felt the fear of possible rejection and it zaps you back
into your comfort zone. It keeps you from victory… from success.
You strike up a conversation hoping you'll fit into a group
you've just met while on a business trip and you realize that
some of the group members' successes and track records are miles
ahead of you… and…"Bam"… you freeze!
You've heard these responses in your head over and over before…
same words… different situations. (Sometimes you do this to
your self - sabotage your self with thoughts of rejection that
haven't even happened yet, and the threat is ONLY in our minds!)
- What if they realize that you're a rookie?
- What if they ask you something that you don't know?
- What if they decide they just don't like you?
What you felt is the impending threat of possible rejection
being measured by your built in "Rejection Radar", otherwise
known as your "Sociometer".
Each of us has one of these "personal rejection radars" and it
tells us that rejection is possibly on the way. This radar,
allows us to prepare - to arm ourselves with the defenses that
our internal self has in place to help protect our self-esteem.
Want to know more about this "radar"?
The Radar...: Page | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 |
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