RELATIONSHIP COACHING with Kevin Hogan

Coaching is probably the fastest growing profession in the world and one of the most rewarding. I've had the privilege of coaching people who make as much as 8 figures per year. (That's a lot of money!) I've also coached people who started with nothing and watched their lives grow into something they are NOW enormously proud of.

I've also been coached and mentored and find that the help from someone who isn't living inside of me can be darned helpful!! I can't imagine ANYONE who doesn't need a coach at one time or another in their lives.

But there are a LOT of other ways to coach people, and they are begging for help! People want to do better at work, have better relationships, make more money, market their products better and enhance their personal relationships. Coaching is a growing field and I wanted to share with you some of the key coaching skills that you can IMMEDIATELY apply to your own life and perhaps help someone move to the next level in their life.

A coach is someone who helps others optimize their performance or achievement in SOME aspect(s) of life.

A friend of mine, Katherin Scott, is a relationship coach based in the Seattle area. We were talking about entering into relationships that work, those that don't and the amazing mistakes people make at different points in their relationships. One thing we talked about was making new "keys" that fit into the RIGHT KINDS of people. Let's step back for a minute and look at this.

Many people get involved with people who, at the unconscious level, are very much like people who they have known in their lives (people like Mom, Dad, Grandma, Grandpa, and so on). Sometimes these people are wonderful and sometimes they are ...not. Regardless, we go through life with our "keys" formatted to fit people who respond to us the way Mom, Dad, Grandma, and Grandpa responded to us. If those relationships were excellent, the client is in luck...the odds are his future relationships will pattern after those relationships. If those relationships were dysfunctional, then the chances are overwhelming the person will form similar relationships with friends, in business and in love.

The good news is that the keys you "have" can be changed. Here is one powerful strategy to bring important people into a client's life. (This could be a venture capitalist, a new friend, a potential life partner, etc.)

Successful Relationship Pattern

1. Ask your client or your friend (and I like to do this with eyes closed), "What would you like a new friend to look like?" They will tell you.
2. Ask your client or your friend, "What kind of energy would this person 'send to you' ?"
3. (Key question) "How would you KNOW they are sending you that energy?" They will tell you and you will write this down! All of it!
4. "What kinds of things will this person be interested in?"
5. "What kinds of values and beliefs MUST this person have for you to develop a LONG TERM relationship with them?"
6. "What kinds of differences between you and this person would be MOST important for you to have so you could learn, or experience new things with them?"
7. "What kinds of places would you and your new friend GO to and what would you DO there?" (Record everything.)
8. Now comes the work on the OTHER SIDE of the key!!!... "What would you have to change about yourself to draw this person into your life?"
9. "What else would you have to change about your life to draw this person into your life?"
10. "What else..."
11. "How would you show this person that you cared about them so they always knew?"
12. "How would you ask this person to tell you their needs and wants in a relationship to make sure you were always on the same page in your friendship?"
13. "How will you feel on a daily basis knowing this person is your friend?"
14. Repeat the process FIVE times with five VERY DIFFERENT people.
15. Record all information.
16. "Now, each day, I want you to write down in your journal which, if any, of these people came into your life, and WHAT YOU DID TO GROW THE FRIENDSHIP." (Did you e-mail them? Get their phone number, etc.?)

Your client must then begin to identify the people who "fit the bill" as they come into their lives and then record the information in their journals. A lot of people (OK darn near everyone) don't recognize a great thing when they see it. THIS PROCESS assures the client that they will not only recognize people that will help fulfill their lives but it obligates them to DO something about these apparently synchronistic meetings. This is a powerful process and one that is life changing and spiritually enhancing!

Please feel free to use the pattern as much as you like in your own life and with your clients!

I've identified 12 of the life patterns which cause us to trip up - and make the same mistakes again and again. To discover which of the 12 patterns you have been the victim of and how to eliminate self-sabotage in your life (or those of your clients) you can pick up the CD program and workbook, LIFESTORMS: The Paradox of Overcoming Self Sabotage to Achieve Love, Power, Money and Happiness.

Lifestorms: 12 Obstacles to Achievement: The Paradox of Overcoming Self Sabotage to Achieve Love, Power, Money and Happiness.

by Kevin Hogan

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• Do you ever know you should start on a project but don't?
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• How to identify which of the 12 negative life patterns you live.
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• How to understand those around you so you don't push their buttons.
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