Not with YOU...
Removing the Punch from Rejection?
by Kevin Hogan
How can you possibly immunize yourself against immense, long-lasting pain?
How can you protect yourself against rejection BEFORE you get rejected?
Fortunately, there is something that you can do that will help you cope and help you maintain self-worth in the face of rejection. Learning this can help to make it easier to deal with rejection and keep you on top when those feelings begin to creep in.
- ...Before that feeling in the pit of your stomach kicks in.
- ...Before the warning signals start going off.
- ...Before your Self-Worth Gauge registers "EMPTY!"
Use Intense Self-Compassion to Help Cope With Rejection
And just what is "self compassion?"
Knowing how rejection works and how our bodies use self-worth as a regulator to help us guard against its threat can help you prepare BEFORE rejection strikes again.
Knowing how YOU personally react will allow you to see yourself in a different light, allowing you to see your response to rejection as it really is. Not as you THINK it is or FEEL it is during the moment that it is happening to you.
Recipe for Disaster?
How you "think and feel" in "that moment" is the trigger most people use to decide what to do. And of course, that is the wrong thing to do.
You must prepare in advance for what your plan will be when you "think and feel" a certain way, or you are destined to be a slave to your thoughts and feelings.
That Self-Worth Gauge registers Self-Worth Units.
Those self-worth units can change over time.
Need a Refill?
Want to know how to start filling that tank back up?
Better yet, want to know how to keep your tank full and lessen the negative effects of rejection the next time it comes knocking at your door?
Research psychologist Mark Leary of Wake Forest University, says having a high self-esteem may not be as important as having high self-compassion when it comes to dealing with negative life events.
And Dr. Leary has just prescribed the solution....
Here are the doc's orders...: Page | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 |
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