From Failure to Success with Positive Thinking
by Kevin Hogan
Habits are interesting things. And good or bad, positive or
negative, we are slaves to our habits.
All of us.
It is difficult to change habits, good or bad.
It's almost impossible for successful people to fall into bad
habits that will cause them to fail in the long-term.
Without a well constructed script, it's darn tough for
people who are in the throes of bad habits to get out of them
to make room for good habits and behaviors..
Think about this: You still struggle with the things you did
five years ago.
You are still good at the things you were good at five years ago.
Change is particularly difficult because you're changing
You can "think" and have "will power" all you want in changing
nonconscious behavior but if you fail to do a LOT of things right,
you are facing a near impossible task.
You don't consciously think about braking when you're driving, you just do
it. If you had to think about it, you wouldn't be alive for long
if you drive a car.
Nonconscious habits typically become nonconscious after constant
repetition. These behaviors become ingrained and are more
difficult to eradicate than when originally planted because they were
almost always wired in with strong emotion.
What that means is that fears, bad habits, and most of our
weaknesses are drilled in with specific actions and
emotions....typically early in life.... and then repeated thousands of times
during the course of life.
Maybe you stood in front of a group and were humiliated.
Happens all the time.
Whether it was by a group of kids, teachers or parents, or whoever
doesn't matter. You were humiliated.
The fear of getting back in front of a group and feeling those same
feelings again is one that people will do just about anything to avoid.
The first time or two typically happen under duress.
By then the habit of feeling humiliated is wired in.
No matter how friendly a future group might be...no matter how much...
"positive support and encouragement" you might get, the fact is the
feelings of humiliation or the panic or whatever, don't go away.
And so it goes.
How do we find the solution?
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