....it is a 100% guarantee that you will ultimately fail. (Usually quickly.)
Don't misunderstand...Feelings aren't the "enemy."
There's not a thing wrong with feeling upset, angry, tired, apathetic, happy or sad.
Feelings are a wake-up call that you have not become comfortable in a specific life experience.
Feelings of discomfort talk to you. They say to you that you belong in your hamster wheel...but you misinterpret them to read, "this isn't right for me."
Feelings aren't very smart.
They have zero IQ.
Interpreting something with no "sense" to it is something no one is taught in school or anywhere else.
And it's not your fault.
No one ever taught you how to TRULY understand feelings.
Without going into a big long diatribe on neuropsychology, feelings and emotions, let's just put it this way:
You simply can't run your life based on your feelings or you will be doing all the things that "feel good" all the time...addiction.
Run your life on your feelings and you fail. And, you fail fast.
"Honey would you feed the baby?"
"I haven't slept in a week. I'm too exhausted. Would you please?"
"No can do. I don't feel like it. My feelings aren't aligned with my intention to watch the game."
Baby dies.
Oh well. At least they felt good.
People who run their lives based on their feelings become addicts of "feeling good and avoid feeling anything painful or bad."
It's only human nature.
And the addict won't change.
Feeling "good" is simply too fun and easy...until they take the furniture, the house and the kids.
When you walk through the fire of your feelings, fear and pain, you WILL ULTIMATELY come to the point that your new actions become familiar.
It can take a week or two or three or four depending on how much you are involved. It doesn't take long but getting past the first day or two or three is a toughie.
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