Jealousy
Kevin Hogan
Page 6
The Vigilant, Jealous Man
Jealousy hurts the person who is jealous. It is painful. The person
in no way wants to be jealous. The feelings of pain are deep. The low
self-worth, the lack of confidence, the constant wondering and fear.
They become obsessive at every level.
There are no words that work.
This stuff is rooted with the caveman who BOUGHT the security
system. He was constantly vigilant in respect to his possessions,
including his partner. He lived to talk about it and form the
caveman's club. The other guy and his partner and kids got eaten by
the animals. They didn't form a caveman's association.
Today in 2009, women initiate the vast majority of divorces.
Why?
Because the man didn't abandon his family.
Read that again.
Perhaps he wasn't the guardian, but I bet he was. Because she
wouldn't have divorced him if he was agreeable and emotionally stable.
Jealousy has some paradoxical and predictable payoffs.
It feels terrible. It hurts. It causes pain in the jealous person
and the other person.
But it serves a number of purposes, all of them rooted in survival,
safety and security.
Now, let's make this all brilliantly and abundantly clear. The research in English speaking countries shows this:
Half of all men AND women have attempted stealing a FRIEND'S partner.
Now I gotta tell you that killing your own friend is something you don't
want to entertain.
But did he?
You bet.
And so did she.
To argue that jealousy is not logical or rational, is both foolish and
counterproductive.
It's very normal. And it is very logical and very rational. It is required
for survival.
Almost half of all women test their partner by setting up a jealousy
inducing moment. Men do the same thing, but not anywhere near as
often. It's a dangerous game to play.
Should You Try to Reduce Jealousy?
Knowing all this, does it make sense to try and reduce jealousy in a
relationship?
Of course...if there truly is no "reason" to be jealous. There
usually IS a reason to be jealous, however, and making jealousy "go
away" is only going to begin when the partner leaves.
(And even then it's simply not present.)
Wide open communication is a good starting point.
If the other partner doesn't want to leave, then it's a good time to
talk.
And taking care of disasters in advance is the best option of all.
I've identified 12 of the life patterns which cause us to trip up - and make the same mistakes again and again. To discover which of the 12 patterns you have been the victim of and how to eliminate self-sabotage in your life (or those of your clients) you can pick up the CD program and workbook, LIFESTORMS: The Paradox of Overcoming Self Sabotage to Achieve Love, Power, Money and Happiness.
Lifestorms: 12 Obstacles to Achievement:
The Paradox of Overcoming Self Sabotage to Achieve Love, Power, Money and Happiness.
by Kevin Hogan
3 CDs in this program - and it comes with a BIG WORKBOOK! And now, get a free Lifestorms DVD presentation with your order!
Discover why life often brings you exactly what you don't want...and how self sabotage can hide around every corner. Some people have guessed at the bizarre nature of self sabotage. Guess no more. Self sabotage is very real in everyone's life. It is completely devastating and 100% resolvable!
- Do you ever know you should start on a project but don't?
- Do you have projects that you have started but never finished?
- Do you ever say the one wrong thing at the wrong time?
- Have you ever had things going well in life only to have everything blow up in a day?
- Have you tried to be so careful not to make a mistake that you were shocked when you made a truly costly one?
- Have you ever promised yourself to stay out of trouble in some way only to find yourself in the same trouble or worse again?
Now you can discover your own life patterns so you can eliminate unconscious self sabotage immediately. This program will break the heavy chains that hold you from your dreams and your goals.
This program is the first program ever made public that shows you how to identify specific self sabotaging behaviors and negative life patterns. Better? You can ultimately erase those life patterns and rewrite new "schemas" into your brain that will allow you to meet your goals and experience fulfilling relationships.
Here is what you will learn:
- How to identify which of the 12 negative life patterns you live.
- How to find the triggers of the lifestorms that you just can't believe you experience.
- How to change the self sabotage into success, happiness or something productive.
- How to remove almost all obstacles between you and your goals.
- How to understand those around you so you don't push their buttons.
- How to predict your behavior and that of others.
- How to actually achieve your goals so they are more than just a dream.
No one anywhere has ever put such a program on CD. There is not one person anywhere who can't utilize every minute of this insightful information. These three CD's are packed with the most powerful tools for getting past life's roadblocks and personal sabotage ever imagined. Anyone can utilize this information and I personally guarantee that if you follow the instructions you will not experience self sabotaging behavior anymore. Your goals become reality at speeds faster than you ever imagined.
Learn More About Lifestorms or to order
Return: Page | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 
Kevin Hogan
Network 3000 Publishing
3432 Denmark #108
Eagan, MN 55123
(612) 616-0732
Photos appear under license with Stockexpert.
