Instant Rapport and Bonding With Anyone
How to Rapidly Connect at a Deep Level with Men & Women
by Kevin Hogan
Most people have no idea what to say when
they meet someone, whether in business, or the girl at the table
Then, when they "think of what to say", they force it out then trail off
into nothingness ...
Today, you get to see just what it is that creates an instant
bond between people. And you'll learn how you can do the
A big part of REAL RAPPORT is creating the sense of familiarity and comfort between you and another person where no familiarity and comfort previously existed.
Helping people be at ease in your presence stops resistance to rapport and bonding.
Today let's look at the beautiful girl who is just as inclined to have instant rapport with you as the UPS guy. Then let's look at how to move from rapport to bonding whether in the business project and those involved or with that beautiful girl.
I sold advertising and sponsorships after I left University Round One.
I did this for a number of years for a number of different companies and organizations. I learned what worked and what didn't. I learned how clients should promote and how they shouldn't. I asked tons of questions about what businesses did that made them money and I asked them what failed to bring in new customers.
It never dawned on me that being very personal and intimate from the first seconds could lead to long lasting relationships.
I never liked "chit chat" or "small talk."
If I was going to talk, I wanted to learn something or accomplish SOMETHING.
The one thing I loved about University was that it taught me to ask the right questions when researching.
... they could have just taught me that on day one ...
Selling Advertising is an Education
Selling advertising was an education and a revelation.
However, it became clear very soon that I couldn't stay in the business for long.
I didn't like the business, but what I learned while in the business was priceless.
It taught me what Main Street businesses were likely to fail (specifically, fail in this context means to not be profitable enough to make a secure living) and I learned the very few business models that were likely to succeed.
I learned how to rapidly evaluate if a business was profitable and whether they would be. I learned the real significance of location.
After thousands of appointments with managers and owners of mostly small Main Street Businesses, I became immune to the fears of asking "personal questions." Whether someone was old or young, sexy and sweet or disabled and old; I enjoyed connecting with people. Every day people told me things that only their accountant or lawyer should know.
I appreciated people's trust. I enjoyed the "fun" I could have with people in any context. I loved to listen, learn, laugh.
Why did all these people tell me pretty much anything I asked about while I was on an advertising sales call?
One day I hung out with my my good friend Dave Lakhani at the Playboy Mansion in Los Angeles. We had a blast, stayed out of trouble but talked to the most beautiful women I'd ever seen. It never dawned on me that I should be uncomfortable.
Was I lucky that I was able to bond with men and women so quickly? How was it that deep connections were made that have lasted a lifetime in many, many cases?
I did a few things well.
Today the personal experience, the art and the science of instant rapport and bonding.
Making a Connection
I connected with people very quickly. In two minutes I typically went from initial resistance to a glue-like rapport.
Because the connection was so strong after an hour, I did business with the owner. They felt like they knew me. And when I returned the following year, that proved very true. They remembered my name, my life situation, my family members' names. I had the same experience for my hundreds of clients. What I didn't realize was how unusual this was.
I never really did much mirroring/matching. It "worked", but it was really elementary.
So what did I do that was replicable?
Can YOU bond with others quickly?
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