Charisma: Increase Your Charisma Quotient with 43 Powerful Tips
Charisma is not some unidentifiable quality that only a few can possess. I've identified 43 techniques to increase your CQ (Charisma Quotient). If you want to be more effective with others, you want the ultimate edge over your competition by developing charisma.
In this article, I'm going to give you four powerful tips that you can use today to make you more likable, beleivable and charismatic.
Charisma: External focus toward others
Whenever you are in the presence of others, is most of your conscious attention drawn inward to your thoughts or do you invest at least that much time into thinking what they are thinking? Do you think feel what they are feeling?
Remember this conversation:
You tell someone about your vacation or exciting experience. You are excited and into your story. The person you are with, however, is politely waiting for you to finish, and when you have finished, they say, "Oh, that's nothing." And then they go on to "one-up" your story.
The person who has one-upped your story has no charisma. They lack the ability to probe into your feelings or be fascinated by your experience.
Read the following three sentences someone might say after you tell them a story about your recent vacation to the Grand Canyon:
a) "I've been there lots of times. It's great."
b) "Have you seen the other side of the Canyon, it's even prettier there."
c) "Oh really? What did you like best about the Canyon?"
The first sentence seems innocuous enough. It's not rude. It's not really even selfish. It simply is not charismatic. However, the person hasn't entered the other person's world.
The second sentence appears to show some curiosity. Nevertheless, the person is still on "their map." A charismatic person needs to step off their map and enter into the mind of the other person completely.
Sentence "C", on the other hand, is probing. It shows curiosity and maybe even fascination. This person communicates charismatically because their focus of attention is outside of themselves.
Do not misunderstand. People are also perceived as charismatic with their ability to motivate, to tell a story, to captivate attention and make others revolve around them. However, without the ability to walk on another person's map and enter their mind, the person will not be seen as charismatic.
Charisma: Care about each person in group
When I talk to an audience, I look at people in the eyes. I look to see if they are happy to see me, or if they are hurting about something inside. Perhaps they are somewhere in between. When you give attention to people at this kind of individual level, you will begin to capture the hearts and minds of your listeners. No, you can never get them all to like you. But, you can have empathy for everyone there.
Charisma: Walk with certainty
If you are preparing to communicate important information, you can bet that people will be watching you every step of the way. When you are walking, people pick up a lot about you on a nonverbal level.
People who walk particularly slowly are usually perceived in a light that will not be helpful in the persuasive setting. I tend to walk at a pretty rapid clip and that can be seen as someone in a hurry, which is not perfect either. There is an advantage to walking quickly, though. On a practical level, people see that you are indeed preparing to do something important. This makes them much less likely to stop you and talk with you when you may be mentally preparing for a big presentation.
The ideal walk is moderate pace, eyes ahead, greeting people with a nod and a smile and moving on. People will be more prone to stop you mid-step, but if you handle the potential interrupter well, you can offer, "Let's catch up after my presentation," as you move along.
Walk with certainty and people will see you as important and give you respect.
Charisma: Exude self-confidence
There is very little in life that is more important than self-confidence. You must have a sense of certainty about what you are going to communicate about. You can easily be self-confident when you are able to speak for hours about something you are an expert at. If you constantly need notes to read from, you will not only lose your audience, you will lose credibility and self-confidence.
There is nothing wrong with having a cheat sheet with some key words on it. Even Paul McCartney has the lyrics to his songs on a teleprompter in case he gets side-tracked. BUT, the exception is not the rule. Do you know your material as well as you do your name? If so you will be able to exude self-confidence.
Now, what if the material is "you"? What if you are not influencing others to do something, but rather, to like you? This situation is different. In these cases you must realize that by DOING something (talking to someone) you are accomplishing what most people will not do, and, that is become vulnerable. It is very difficult to say "no" to someone who has made themselves vulnerable.
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I've never met anyone who was responsible for their own income
(business people, sales people, therapists) that couldn't earn
(easily) twice as much income when they added Paid Speaking
to their Life Tool Box.
Maybe you have done some speaking already. (That's a big plus by
Bill Clinton earns $100,000 for a speech. And he's good. But he was
the President. He should be getting paid high buck for the stories he
can tell and the experiences he can share.
I'm not Bill Clinton. I don't earn $100,000 per speech. Not many
But, how does $10,000-$15,000 per speech sound?
I get at least that. What about you?
Who are the highest paid people in the world?
Public speakers, motivational speakers, inspirational speakers,
keynote speakers, workshop leaders and seminar presenters are among
the highest paid people in the world. And I'm talking about people who
for the most part, didn't go to college...
One article I read recently said that public speakers are the
single most overpaid people in the world.
The article was written by a staff journalist. Superb writer.
Articulate. Makes a good argument. And he could easily be earning 10
times what his paper pays him...easily. Sorry my friend, that was your
Not only is there no reason that you can't be "overpaid,"
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"Kevin, with two thirds of the Professional
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training material, continual opportunities for active participation and one
third of the training still to come, I cannot fathom what you have left to
share! I haven’t even read about a course that contains half of the
materials that you have covered to this point, and still say there is more!
The opportunity to interact with the other participants really pulled it all
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Murray R. Mortlock, CD, Alberta, Canada
I got paid $500 for my first paid public presentation. Now that may
not sound like a lot to you, but this was 1987 when $500...was about
twice what it is today. I was 25.
Two years before that presentation, I earned $14,140 as a
restaurant manager that worked 54.90 hours per week. (Do the math.) I
was not a good manager. To my credit, I was a customer-service-junkie
manager. I wanted every customer served at light speed and with the
best we had. But I didn't care if the paperwork was up to
date...didn't care if the drawers added up perfectly at the end of the
night. They were always close enough. (If they weren't I put in my own
money and found how the cash disappeared later...) Didn't care if the
coupons were all entered into the registers. I just was not a
bookkeeping kind of guy.
I didn't mind paying lazy employees minimum wage and good employees
twice that. But the restaurant did. Employees needed to be paid
roughly the same amount of money....How stupid was that?! Lose your
best employees to the first real job they find...and I'm stuck with
what's left. I shared that with the regional people. They didn't like
my non-conformist attitude. I confess that I never read "the
That got me into more than occasional trouble. I didn't know you
couldn't help people with their family problems at home, compliment
the lady on how nice she looked that day, tell the guy to get his
backside in gear, or bet on the Vikings. I managed "by Mom."
I managed the store like my Mom would have. (And by the way...we were
substantially profitable that year over and above the previous year
even with bad weather at the holidays!)
I didn't get fired from THIS job. But I should have. I hated the
rules...well I would have if I would have read them. The Regional
Manager kept reminding me of the rules. I would almost get ill when I
would be lectured about "the rules and policies". Policy
always sounded like Police to me....
It just wasn't for me. I quit before finding more ways to get
"fired." (No one was "downsized" in those days.)
I wanted to do something FUN, EXCITING, and something I LIKED.
My two co-managers LOVED their work. The place was a perfect fit for
them...but not me. I was a square peg and had no intentions of getting
any more shaved off on the sides to "make me fit."
Napoleon Hill sat by my bed every night. (Think and Grow Rich, that
is.) I was going to do him proud....
Moving from the point of being a speaker who wanted to "get
good," to a professional was a pretty big step for me. I was
going to ask for $500....
I was REALLY young. Why would anyone PAY ME to talk to them?
And once I decided to actually answer that question...
It was 1987 at Moreland Elementary School. I talked to the 400 kids
packed into the gymnasium about drug and alcohol use. The good. The
bad. The ugly. I was scared to death (almost literally, as I suffered
from severe panic disorder in 1987...I had panic attacks 3-6 times per
week...they were random...I never knew when they would come.).
I was 25 years old and my life dream was now officially on day one.
I didn't do it alone. I asked for help and I had help. I had a friend
helping me. Someone who was as dedicated not to my dream but the
message we wanted to share. In fact, there were 2 or 3 people like
that. None of us got rich. We weren't in that frame of mind. We shared
a powerful message to people who wanted to hear it...and a lot that
didn't. Later letters and testimonials would show lives saved, endless
appreciation, recommendations to other schools and organizations.
Two years later I spoke to South St. Paul High School. $1000. I had
an enormous audience of students, teachers, parents. The place was
packed. Same subject. But media covered this one. We came up with a
neat angle that tied us into a national campaign. That was a very,
very good thing because it was the beginning of the next level...
In fact most of my early presentations were all $500-$1,000 per day
(several presentations per day at each school). They were in front of
schools...kids...the toughest audiences on the planet...and I survived
to tell about it!
I don't have detailed records (what a surprise)... but I did about
15 schools per year for four years. I made more money in those 15 days
than I did the entire year in 1986.
I made the audience members' adrenaline pump. I was
unconventional. I did a lot of things most speakers would never do in
front of an audience. I was not politically correct. My lack of
judgment in content often got me a few scowls but, by-and-large, they
liked the 25 year old...
I worked hard to get the dates...next to no one knows how to go
from anonymous to known quickly...and I was no exception. I had to
learn the hard way. But I learned.
I learned how to get paid even when they didn't have ANY MONEY.
I learned how to get paid and my audience was children, which meant
ZERO back of room. I learned how to get paid when there was literally
no budget, no allotment, no nothing. Each month went by and I learned
another secret. Another insider idea that would pay off over and over
again. The kind of stuff no one on the outside would ever think
about...which is why they were on the outside and I was in the jungle
Today...things have moved along nicely. I have been invited to
speak literally from London to Australia. It took me an enormous
amount of time to learn how to move from level to level. 500 to 1000.
1000 to 1500. 1500 to 2000. 2000 to 4000. 4000 to 5000. 5000 to
But the hardest leaps were the early leaps. Constantly having to
justify how I could be worth 1000.00 for one day...
And that's what I want to help you do.
I want to show you how to move from zero to whatever you want to
earn. (There is a cap by the way, in what you get paid for
speaking. You can do X dates per year. That's it. There IS a cap so
don't think you will make 100,000,000 just from speaking. You won't!
You simply get paid more than all of your friends and peers and most
everyone else...a lot more.)
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"If you are successful, highly motivated and think you are already at the pinnacle of self-achievement, then this program is definitely the program for you! Not only does Kevin teach you insider secrets on how to jump-start a highly successful professional speaking career, he skillfully elicits potential areas of self-sabotage and procrastination and then firmly guides you to overcome them; patiently ignoring your kicking and screaming and excuses. He then proudly shares your joy as you reach goals that were only vague hopes when starting the program. Kevin's skill, knowledge and warmth make this the "must have" course not only for those seeking a professional speaking career, but also for any successful person seeking the next pinnacle." Michelle Drum, Charleston, IL
"Long before I met Kevin Hogan, I heard and read tons of nothing but great comments about him. Now I have a ton of great things to say myself. Kevin is absolutely brilliant. He is a master at his craft and it was inspiring to witness him doing what he does best: Deliver powerful, life-changing information in a humble but extremely confident manner. I have read dozens of books, attended dozens of workshops and dozens of seminars on the professional speaking industry searching for the secret ingredient. But there is no secret ingredient, there's a secret recipe. Kevin Hogan is the man with that recipe. During this Speaker Course, Kevin covered it all. From creating stories that deliver your message straight to the unconscious mind to how to position yourself on the stage for maximum impact. From killer marketing secrets to fee and contract negotiations. How to become an "expert"...How get YOUR book into the top 10 on Amazon! That secret was worth the cost of the course by itself. And as if all of this wasn't enough during our one-on-one coaching session, Kevin gave me some advice and guidance that will not only make my career better, but make my entire life better. I don't know where he keeps his heart, because it's too big to fit in his body! The bottom line is this: It doesn't matter if you're a beginning speaker or an advanced one. If you want save thousands of dollars and cut years off of your learning curve then quit playing, and take this course." Al "The Inspiration" Duncan, TV Personality, Host of The State Of The Mind Address, www.alduncan.net
Here is what you are going to learn in your 8 week course:
How to get companies to pay you more than you have ever been
paid in your life.
How to Get White Glove Treatment. Get the company to pick you up at the airport in a limo, assign you your assistant, bring you to your world class hotel, drive you to the convention, buy you a gourmet lunch, wine and
dine you at night and return you feeling like you never have felt
before to your hotel ready to return home in the morning.
How to get them to pay you *in advance*.
My contract that I use with companies all over the world...I'm
going to give it to you.
Typical contracts that they respond with! (They don't tell you
this in Speakers 101. You have to learn that their contracts are
written by big shots who don't care about you or your speaking.
They are the company attorneys.)
How to easily negotiate your fee (usually in one minute or less)
and the terms of your contract.
How to get nonprofit organizations to pay you when everyone else
is speaking for free.
How to get THOUSANDS of dollars from nonprofit and charitable
organizations that do not have "ONE CENT" to pay your
fee... (I lived on this secret for three years!)
How to develop a wealth of material that is YOUR UNIQUE MATERIAL
to use when speaking.
How to develop stories from YOUR LIFE that you can tell over and
over for tens of thousands of dollars. Never will you have to tell
someone else's story again.
How to build YOUR name so YOU become your own BRAND.
How to start tomorrow!
How to get newspapers and TV to come and cover you tomorrow!
How to get free television time that would cost you tens of
thousands of dollars if you could afford to pay for it.
How to get international gigs. (Read that as get paid to travel
first class to the most exotic places on the planet!)
I'm going to show you EVERYTHING you MUST do from square one to
I will fill in every step.
I will show you every secret.
I will show you who is getting hired, why and where.
I will show you how to work as MUCH or LITTLE as you want to.
I will show you how to get INVITED BACK next year so you don't
have to market to that group ever again!
How can you learn the different aspects of public speaking from
home with an e-course?
First, you'll receive raw uncut footage of me at work with various
groups and corporations. You'll see me at my best, good and once
when I wasn't as good as I wanted to be. I'll show you what works
and what doesn't and WHY and HOW to replicate it. You'll see what it
takes to keep an audience in rapture.
Four times during the two month course you will call in to our
special phone system and record parts of a speech that you will
develop and that I've approved. (I won't let you develop a
presentation that you won't get paid for!) I'll have crucial
feedback for you within 48 hours in most cases. I'll let you
know exactly where you are at with no B.S. I'll show you how to
repair the defects and enhance your strengths. You'll get point by
point feedback as if I was in the room with you. You don't need any
special equipment to do this. I take care of everything.
As a bonus, I'm also going to let you use video tape if you
have the ability to videotape yourself. If so, you will have two
opportunities to get me video in the 5th and 8th weeks of the course.
I will analyze up to 30 minutes of a presentation that I
approve for you. I'll give you point by point feedback as
if I was in the room with you.
There's a great deal of written work in creating various messages
(marketing, manuals, PR, press releases) that you will use to
represent yourself to the people you want to hire you. I will line
by line each piece of work for you.
Every piece of getting paid what you are worth is included and
I will hold nothing back. If you need the answer to ANY
question you will be able to ask at any time.
The complete plan is here for you. Nothing is left out. No
additional secrets. Everything is here. Everything.
The course works like this.
10 people participate (I'd work with 50 if I had the time, desire
and energy...it's not that "space is limited"...it's
not...it's an E-Course.)
Each week, you'll receive your
lesson for the week. One week it's a video tape that will arrive in
your mailbox. The next week it's densely packed information and
crucial data you get by email. The next week it's YOU making a video
and sending it to me to FIX. Not only will I show you how to present
so they WANT YOU BACK, I'll show you what to do to become a truly
SUPERB speaker so they will be talking about you the next day!
Yes. I'm going to show you how I create and develop presentations
so that you can literally talk for DAYS and not cover the same story
or material twice...all without a script.
This program not only shows you how to make money but...if you
choose... how to become one of the best!
Crucial: In order to get feedback on the week's assignment you MUST
get your homework to me by the end of the week. I won't play catch up
with anyone. It's your life, not mine....and it's MY LIFE, not yours.
I'm dedicated to you, you dedicate to me. If fixing the planter in the
back yard is more important than the rest of your life, then don't
register for the course.
At the end of the course, you will have my attention for quite some
time because of how I earn my money...
Each participant pays a grand total of $10,000 per person.
I'll do 100% of the work to get you where you want to be, if you
will put a 30% deposit down. (Or less...!)
You enroll for only $2997See Application Form for current discounted tuition rate!
Then you give me your word (and a signed note) that after you have
earned $100,000 in speaking fees, you will pay the balance of $7,000.
I'm going to write letters of recommendation, take phone calls for
you from potential clients, help you in ways that only someone in the
field can, and be here for you when you need any holes filled in for
If we have corresponded or talked in the past...this is who I
prefer to work with. But even if we haven't as long as you have
integrity (total integrity) and a strong desire to succeed, you can
I retain the right to turn down any application for any reason
prior to the beginning of the course.
If you want to lead the field, I want to help you. Oh, and
if I'm anywhere nearby when you are giving your first speech after you
hit the $100,000 mark, I will be there in the audience cheering you
Here's your chance. You've always wanted it. You've always dreamed
it. Whether you are 25 or 75...don't die with your music still in
you...this is the opportunity of your lifetime. Let's have fun
together and make some music!