Kevin Hogan
Network 3000 Publishing
16526 W. 78th St. #138
Eden Prairie, MN 55346
(612) 616-0732
Getting What You Want in Life
(Part 2)
By Kevin Hogan
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SCOOP: You want a good looking XX or XY that is NOT A JERK. Someone who does Z behaviors but not A, B, or C behaviors.
(Make sure such a human exists or it could be a long search!)
Thus the reason you need to be clear about what you want and what you don't.
No one teaches that second half of the equation, which is why they produce no successful mentee's...
One Step Forward...
Another problem people tend to encounter is that they do the first step ok, then falter. That is, they get clear about what they want. They pick a goal, and name the specifics. But then they change their mind and start chasing a different goal without having determined if that's what they really want to do at a conscious level.
Pretend you decided your goal is to buy a new Lexus within one year - with cash. (I like buying depreciating assets with cash. I like buying appreciating assets with cash as well, but it doesn't matter so much because the value is going UP.)
You spent a few months working on that goal, and then you changed your mind. Instead, you decided that you wanted to travel the world instead.
OK, fine. No prob.
But then just a few short months later you changed your mind yet again, and chose a new goal: perhaps you decided you want to move to Vegas or Tucson.
You could find a nice place and the goal is just fine.
However, we already know the problem: you won't be able to achieve this goal (or any other) if you keep changing your mind and redirecting your energies to a new goal every few months.
Have a Plan
This is why a PLAN and a LIFE MAP that is DETAILED AND THOROUGH and drawn with someone who knows what they are doing is 100% necessary.
In other words, being clear means not only do you need to have a clear goal, you also need to be clear about whether that goal is really what you want. Start with something you want, not with a "passing fancy" as they say in London, that will cause your motivation to fade quickly - because it will.
Step Two?
We'll do that next week!
Lifestorms: Erasing the 12 Obstacles to Achievement.
Overcoming the Paradox of Love, Power, Money and Happiness
Why life so often brings you exactly what you
don’t want…and how self sabotage hides around every corner. Some
people have guessed at the seemingly bizarre nature of self
sabotage. Guess no more. Self sabotage is very real in everyone’s
life, completely devastating and 100% resolvable.
You’ve probably noticed that…
The more you argue for your point of view, the
less you are heard.
That which you fear the most today are often best
for you in the long run.
The more you need money, the harder it is to
acquire.
The more you need that person the more they move away from
you.
The more open you are about your vulnerability the
more invulnerable you become.
The more you protest, the more you get what you
protest against.
What you may not know is that we need at least six fundamental
needs met to succeed in every aspect of life.
Basic Safety
Connection to Others
Autonomy
Self Esteem
Self Expression
Realistic Limits
If any of the six are not being met beginning at any point early in
life, negative life patterns develop that soon shift from
“clay” to “stone,” in the human mind. These negative life patterns
actually helped us cope early in life with the areas of life when we
didn’t have our fundamental human needs met…Later they become the
core of self sabotage in every aspect of life…stopping us from
getting what we want and literally making everything we don’t
want…happen.
Recurring Patterns
Over the course of your life you have noticed some recurring
patterns and themes. Just as the money finally appears, something
breaks and you have to have it repaired. Just as you are becoming
happy, something big goes wrong. Just as you are getting on
track, you get derailed. Just as you get your promotion, you get
laid off. You find the girl or guy of your dreams and then she slips
away. The worst? You have the break of your life sitting in your lap
and you blow the sale, the interview, the meeting. The chance of a
lifetime (you think) and a lifestorm hits and it is all gone because
of one or two wrong words at a critical moment or even an
interrupting phone call. It’s gone. The girl, the money, the
power, the job, the career, the happiness.
You’ve wanted to
get your life on track and on purpose for so long. You’ve set your
goals and have come up short. You learn the techniques and tools of
communication and even influence but still it always seems to
happen. You try and make all the changes that could ever be made in
a lifetime and then…BOOM! Another lifestorm.
What causes all of this? Does God have some kind of perverted
sense of humor that puts the candy in your hand until it comes to
your mouth and then he makes it vanish?
No, not at all.
12 Specific Patterns
There are 12 specific life patterns that cause virtually all
of these events to happen. 12 very predictable negative life paths
that you can and will repeat and will repeat over and over until you
break the pattern. Once you break the pattern and construct a new
pattern in place of the old, you literally change your life (or that
of your clients). The fewest number of negative life patterns I’ve
seen anyone have are four. The most 11.
Could it be true that life is both this “complex and yet simple?”
That if you just change a few patterns that everything will be OK?
Life is never easy. But the negative life patterns are impossible
to overcome... yes impossible... without stopping the
lifestorms that result from the 12 negative life patterns and then
replacing them with specific new patterns. Every now and then
someone makes something happen by accident. They know what these
negative recurring patterns are and figure out a solution without
having had the manual to do so. And it’s been through observing the
people who figured it out that the everyone else can stop the
lifestorms.
How Does it all Begin?
What are these lifestorms and how did they get here? How do they
emerge from the patterns? Why do they rip your future away from us
just as you are ready to make a quantum leap into your the future?
How do you stop the madness and turn it all around?
Imagine that
you are a child. Age 5. Your Mom and Dad divorce. Your father
leaves. Forever. Your grandfather tries to take your father’s place
and fill in “the gaps.” Shortly thereafter he dies. Your mother
continues to work two jobs to support you, your brothers and your
sisters. Just as you begin to like them… babysitters come and go
over the next couple of years. Finally you reach adolescence and you
have your first love.
She/he is perfect for you. She likes you. You hold on tight. You
call them all the time. Several times per day. Everyone else that
you ever loved has come and gone or just not been there. You’ve
basically been on your own with no one stable in your life and have
learned how tough life is by yourself. You’re going to make sure
that this person doesn’t leave. But they do. They got constricted.
They didn’t feel loved. They felt smothered. They sought advice from
others and eventually followed it. You were that kind of person who
didn’t trust others they told the one you loved. (Note: Many people
want to be called all the time and have an extreme amount of
attention, however most people who have this life pattern do not
gravitate to those people.)
Finally, “not being able to breathe,” they leave you. You are
crushed. Again someone has abandoned you. Everyone leaves. Parents,
grandparents, babysitters…and now the love of your life. You have
the life pattern of abandonment cut with a chisel into the stone of
your mind. This pattern will repeat itself over and over again until
you recognize it, break it and reshape a new pattern into your mind.
Your mind knows no other way to act or how to deal with the feelings
inside. Relationship after relationship is destined to go up in
smoke until this abandonment pattern is resolved and repaired and
remolded.
Break the Chains
And, this is not the only one of the 12 patterns that leads to
relationship troubles. In fact, some patterns lead to chaos in
relationships, jobs, the pursuit of happiness and all aspects of
life. Without correcting these 12 patterns little else will help you
break the chains that keep you from having the love you deserve.
In the case of the abandonment pattern, which you may or may
not experience, you find that it also causes specific behaviors in
the area of money. For example, there are two common patterns with
money that stem from abandonment. The first is the workaholic who
saves every penny possible so that no matter who leaves or what
happens in life there will always be something to ride out the next
lifestorm. The second is that the person simply repeats the pattern
with money and spends themselves to bankruptcy on things that can’t
possibly help their future. They buy more car than they need. They
buy a house they can’t afford. They buy toys that do nothing but
cost more money to maintain.
The Patterns are Predictable
Like the other 11 patterns, the pattern of abandonment has a plotted
course that is predictable in all facets of life. It is
etched in stone and it won’t change until it is sandblasted away. No
amount of positive thinking will erase it. It will take far more
than simple affirmations or a couple of visualizations. It takes a
master plan that, while not difficult to implement, takes some time
to reset itself after sandblasting away the old patterns.
Remember
when you said something like, “My parents did that to me and I will
never do that to anyone.” That’s one of the three ways you
react/respond to negative life patterns. You polarize consciously or
unconsciously from the things that were “done to you.” This could be
a positive reaction but it probably isn’t optimal. Repeating the
pattern of your parents/elders/caretakers is another common
reaction/response, but again, it probably isn’t optimal. On the
continuum of possible behaviors there is usually a point in the
middle that is where you really will be able to overcome the
negative patterns and reset new successful patterns that will stop
self sabotage.
Perhaps you know someone who displays the characteristics of the
abandonment life pattern. Perhaps it is you. Recognition of the
pattern is the first step toward eliminating self sabotage and
staying out of lifestorms. The next step is to identify how you
would like to feel and behave instead of your current feelings and
behaviors.
If you are feeling a paralyzing fear of abandonment…the feeling
that this person too will leave you, what do you want them to feel
and what do you want to feel? Both parts are important. You
certainly don’t want them to feel smothered. You don’t want them to
feel mistrusted as that mistrust will usually move the person to the
behavior you mistrust them of. You want to feel secure and you want
to behave in such a way that does not make yourself appear to not
trust the one you care about. All of these pictures are the
beginning of setting the new pattern. You must determine what you
want to feel and how you want to behave. You want to determine what
message you want to send the one you care about.
In the case of dealing with money with this life pattern, the
same process is critical. What do you want to feel about money? What
do you want to do with your money? Do you want to buy $5,000 toys
and expensive cars or do you want to invest in your self and your
future through education and investment? How will you benefit if you
do these things by choice instead of repeating the self sabotaging
behaviors of the past? How do you want to feel about money? What
thoughts do you want to think about money?
Isolate the Trigger
Once the pattern has been identified and you recognize how you feel
and what you think while you are “in the pattern” you then want to
isolate the trigger. In the future you want this trigger to
trigger the adaptive life pattern that you are going to construct in
its place. You will need to do quite a bit of mental imagery and
visualization along with triggering the new pattern. You will want
to vividly experience the new pattern and the new thoughts and
feelings of the new pattern.
You also will then need to cultivate
a set of specific actions that will physically move you forward in
the new life pattern. At the end of the day you will record your
feelings, thoughts and actions that you had in response to the
triggers that you experienced that day. Usually within 45 days you
can have mostly eradicated the old self sabotaging behaviors and
have installed the new patterns that move you in the direction of
your goals, your dreams.
Of course there are 11 other life patterns in addition to that of
abandonment. There are patterns that include a general mistrust of
others, patterns that create behaviors where you put yourself second
to everyone else. Other patterns emerge where you might believe you
are entitled to things instead of deserving of them. All of these
are examples of patterns that give birth to self-sabotage and are
roadblocks that keep virtually everyone from achieving their dreams.
To discover which of the 12 patterns you have been the victim
of and how to eliminate self sabotage in your life (or those of your
clients) you can pick up the CD program and workbook, Lifestorms:
Eliminating the 12 Patterns of Self Sabotage: Installing the Life
Patterns that Overcome the Paradox of Love, Money and Happiness.
"Blast through Self-Sabotage for Breakthrough Results! Learn EXACTLY
what is holding you back from achieving your dreams."
There is only one
cause of failing to achieve.
Self Sabotage
With
Lifestorms, you learn the 12 life patterns of self sabotage and
destruction and are given blueprints for how to erase the old
patterns and plug in new ones.
"If you have taken any
self improvement courses and they have NOT worked for
you, or you want to get MAXIMUM impact from
them.....first unplug Self-Sabotage.
What Will Happen When You Defuse the Sole Cause of Failure?
This program is
100% content and it is densely packed onto just 3 CD's! And, just as
importantly, you now get the bonus live video presentation (on DVD)
that builds upon the CD program. This exciting presentation was
recorded before an enthusiastic audience of over 200 people and you
will feel like you are right there with them as you watch.
What Do You Get in this
exciting New Program?!:
3 Digital Audio CDs:
Lifestorms: Crushing Self-Sabotage Where It Starts
25 Page Guide/Manual
1 DVD: Lifestorms: The Patterns of Self-Sabotage
Lifestorms: Crushing Self-Sabotage Where It Starts
It happens to
everyone. There are 12 (and only 12) nongenetic blueprints for
self-sabotage at the unconscious level. That's it. I had 9 of
them. No kidding. It took time to knock off each of these forms
of self-sabotage. (A lot of time for 9!) I've never met anyone with
less than 2 Lifestorms and it only takes one to take the life
out of life, to take a would be success story into a lifelong
destiny in the hamster wheel.
Each month, for myself, I
review ALL 12 of the patterns and eliminate any residue of
self-sabotage that exists. Because self-sabotage is nonconscious,
no one is aware of it when it is engaged!
The benefit of being able to
be in check is being in charge. When the unconscious mind is
quelled then the conscious mind can move forward and achieve.
Delve deep into
the nonconscious patterns with 3 audio CDS that help you discover
why life often brings you exactly what you don't want...and how
self-sabotage can hide around every corner.
Some people have guessed at
the bizarre nature of self-sabotage. Few people understand it.
Guess no more.
Self-sabotage is very real in
everyone's life. It is completely devastating and 100%
resolvable!
"I
first gave Lifestorms a superficial listen, just curious
what it was about, and at first I got nothing more out
of it than a sense that it sounded cool. But, during the
last 5 days, I have found the miracle!
Something inside me clicked when I began to thoroughly
study the material. I find myself interacting with
the world as if I'm a new person. The best part is that
this difference, this peace that I can not remember
feeling before, this seems to be not from rational,
"studied" or "memorized" knowledge, but a sense of
freedom, a sense of a huge load falling off my
shoulders, which I did not even know was there.
What I
have not mastered yet, I now know I will because of
Lifestorms (Wow! Finally!) My friend and I, after the
first 5 minutes five days ago, ever since that moment we
can barely stop ourselves from discussing everything and
we are excited to make time every day to study this, and
we dislike the moment when we have to stop because we
can barely wait to see what else is there!"
Katerina Spillkova, San Bruno, CA
Let me ask you a few quick questions. What the answers reveal is
self evident.
Do you ever know you should start on a project but
don't?
Do you have projects that you have started but never
finished?
Do you ever say the one wrong thing at the wrong
time?
Have you ever had things going well in life only to have
everything blow up in a day?
Have you tried to be so careful not to make a mistake that
you were shocked when you made a truly costly one?
Have you ever promised yourself to stay out of
trouble in some way only to find yourself in the same
trouble or worse again?
Now you can discover your own life patterns so you can
eliminate unconscious self-sabotage immediately.
This program will break the heavy chains that hold you from
your dreams and your goals.
This program is the first program ever made public that
shows you how to identify specific self-sabotaging behaviors
and negative life patterns.
Best? You can ultimately erase those life patterns and
rewrite new patterns into your brain that will allow you to
meet your goals and experience fulfilling relationships.
Here is what you will learn:
How to identify which of the 12 negative life
patterns you live.
How to find the triggers of the lifestorms that you just
can't believe you continue to experience.
How to change the self-sabotage into success,
happiness or something productive.
How to remove almost all obstacles between you and your
goals.
How to understand those around you so you don't push their
buttons.
How to predict your behavior and that of others.
How to actually achieve your goals so they are more than
just a dream.
There is not one person anywhere who can't utilize every minute
of this insightful information. These three CDs are packed with
the most powerful tools for getting past life's roadblocks and
personal sabotage ever imagined. The accompanying manual is a
helpful guide and resource to assist you in your journey of
self-discovery. Anyone can utilize this information and I
personally guarantee that if you follow the instructions you
will not experience self- sabotaging behavior anymore. Your
goals become reality at speeds faster than you ever imagined.
Special Bonus: "Live" on DVD! Kevin Hogan reveals the
patterns of self-sabotage to help you recognize the ones holding
you back!
Lifestorms: The Patterns of Self-Sabotage
No one breaks their diet plan for the day at breakfast time...,
or at lunchtime... or at dinner time.... No! The diet plan (for
example) breaks down as conscious will is overcome by the
nonconscious desire to eat. It's that simple. It happens at
night. Usually late at night when most everyone is most
vulnerable to the patterns that destroy everything you do. And
obviously it's a lot more than just your eating patterns that
are affected.
Your love relationships, your jobs, relationships with your
co-workers and families - they are all affected. The way you
handle money, your obsessions and addictions. How you spend your
time - are you on time? Do you respect others? Do you show it?
Or do you end up losing that relationship, that job, or that
paycheck?
Now you have a video presentation filmed live before 200 people who
came from around the world to watch Kevin reveal the specific
patterns that cause these nonconscious programs to run and stay
running. Without dramatic action, the nine patterns will not change
in any meaningful way. Isolating and identifying them in your life
and others will help you finally get what you want. This truly eye
opening DVD is the introduction to the Lifestorms program.
Whether someone is trying to earn more money, lose weight, stop
smoking, get off drugs, or get the girl (guy) of their dreams, this
is the answer to identifying what is causing everything to go wrong.
You'll discover the deeply hidden roots of the most
elusive forms of self sabotage.
You'll find out the manifestations that are seemingly benign
in everyday life.
Most importantly you FINALLY learn what to do next!
This single video presentation will give you more insight to
why people do what they do to screw themselves up than any other
video on the planet.
And, it lays the groundwork for changing the patterns of
sabotage into patterns of achievement, wealth, success and
happiness.
You didn't install these patterns to yourself.
They were put there for you.
Kevin shows you how to find them and pull the plug.
"I was
constantly stopping myself from completing projects and
seemed to stop myself short from taking any actions that
were outside my comfort zone. Everyone should either "Do"
Lifestorms or something similar."
Steve Chambers
Lifestorms
Lifestorms
are what happen when your Negative Life Patterns trigger
Self-Sabotage to keep you 'safe'. This has been your undoing.
Now,
however, you are learning the tools to take control.
Think about how some things keep recurring in your life, things
that hold you back.
Now that you
have an idea (from reading through this information) of where
that Self-Sabotage comes from... Imagine what it will mean to
you, and to all who come in contact with you, to never be slave
to that reaction again. Freedom.
Next,
seriously consider your future, both with and without this
freedom.
How much is
it worth to you to get clear of all the things you do to destroy
your life. Think how many $1000s in income are left on the
table. Think about what it will mean to the people who look up
to you, who often model your patterns -- both good and bad.
Now, you've
undoubtedly heard that it's possible to change habits and
patterns that you’ve developed over twenty, thirty, forty plus
years. And perhaps it is. But to really unplug them and install
new patterns takes time.
"If
you're serious about designing the life you love, I've made this
as easy for you as possible." Kevin Hogan
Just listen to
the 3 CDs, packed with everything you need to get total control over
your Life Patterns, over a weekend. There's a manual with
this product to guide you through the exercises. Then spend a few
minutes every day for 45 days to keep tabs on the changes your
engineering into your life. It's as simple as that.
Further, take a
moment to compare that value to the cost of this simple plan for
defeating Self-Sabotage forever.
Special Price For You
This program is
so unique, I don't even know what to compare it to. My original
price was $297, but I want this to be as widely available to those
elite few who are willing to do what it takes to achieve their goals
and dreams. While still upholding the value of the work. So, for
now, this relatively hidden program is available to you for just $197
I can only
imagine what it would have meant to me to have developed this
program and gone through it myself ten years earlier.
It's time now to
unplug these Negative Life Patterns td your
procrastination, your 'status quo' prison.
In short,
it's time to harness the power of your
nonconscious, and break the ties that hold its powers in check.
"Kevin Hogan Over Delivers"
"It just
wouldn't be a Kevin Hogan product if I didn't overdeliver. Not only
do I pack every product with the best, scientifically researched
content available, I include supporting materials to make sure you
get 10 times the value out of every product. This program is an
exception because it's worth a lot more than 10 or 100 times in your
life."
And
because I want
to make this easy for you to really hit the ground running on these
cosmic personal changes, I've included a DVD which outlines
the Negative Life patterns.
But there's
more. This DVD was recorded live in front of 200 people, and gives
you the 14 Components of Emotional Intelligence. This is huge. Not
only will you now have the power to identify patterns of
Self-Sabotage in yourself, you'll be able to ramp up your emotional
intelligence to 'read' what's going on emotionally in others.
What Are Customers Saying?
"Lifestorms came exactly the right information at
the right time for me. In summary, I'm the 50 year
old 'unfulfilled potential' and as I've dug up the
past patterns over the last few years, I've
progressed. But your program made me recognize both
patterns and origins I had overlooked. Now I'm
becoming free."
John Shoemaker, Tallahassee, FL
"One of the things I've learned about psychology and
the drives of the unconscious mind is not to
immediately trust my strong emotional responses to a
situation. In fact, quite often, when I am my most
emotionally fraught over a situation, the very
VOLUME of the emotion is now a SIGN to me to STOP
and think, "heyyyyyyyyy, this is probably a
Lifestorm....... I better go review Kevin's CD
program and investigate this." Thank GOD I already
have a CD program.
"When stuff comes up, you KNOW how it can come up
quickly! Well, I don't have to wait weeks to discuss
it with a therapist by which time it's gotten buried
again. I know that when stuff comes up THAT is the
best time to address it and work through it. Having
Lifestorms enables me to do JUST THAT!!
"Thanks Kevin! This is a super power life-changing
tool that I use again, again, and again. It's a
great Life Best Practice for me to revisit it about
once a quarter or every 6 months or so."
"Lifestorms has become the cornerstone of my
personal development library. I'm a big fan of Think
and Grow Rich; it's what got me started when I began
thinking as an entrepreneur.
"But just listening to Lifestorms, even without
doing the worksheets, has helped me move forward
much faster than I could have. Not only in business,
but also with family and friends. All that just from
the insight I got from listening. Now I'm going back
to uproot permanently each of my own negative life
patterns."
Kevin Hogan
Network 3000 Publishing
16526 W. 78th St. #138
Eden Prairie, MN 55346
(612) 616-0732
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