Getting What You Want in Life
(Part 2)
By Kevin Hogan
What's the Pay-off?
Getting What You Want in Life specifically includes stopping the reception of that which you do *not* want in life.
That is the beginning of Part Two.
The second sentence in The Bible translated closely from the Hebrew begins, "And the earth was void and without form (a wasteland, a ruin)."
This is not a theology discussion but there are many valuable lessons in The Bible no matter your belief structure.
The point of course is that the earth was a "wasteland." It was a "ruin." And THEN Elohim (literally "the mighty ones") went to work.
He/They made changes. Big changes. God took a mess and then changed EVERYTHING.
The metaphor is worthy of consideration.
Your LIFE probably ISN'T a wasteland or a ruin.
Where you begin is a much better place than where the evolution/creation of the earth began.
So what has to happen in your life?
If you’re having problems making changes, it’s time to look honestly at the situation.
Are you receiving some sort of pay off for staying in a rut?
What is the pay off for doing the same thing you've done for X years?
The Human Animal, when in doubt will do something that will bring it comfort or put it in the place of familiarity.
Obviously change is not comfortable.
Therefore people don't change because they are getting SOMETHING for NOT changing. What is it?
- Financial?
- Emotional?
- "Support" or "Sympathy" from Friends and family that might not have been there otherwise?
"It" is different for each person but "it" IS something to consider.
Limiting Beliefs
Another reason people are resistant to change is because of their limiting beliefs.
People may believe that change isn’t possible, or perhaps deep down simply believe that they don’t deserve the rewards. Either way, your progress will be stopped and the nonconscious mind does need to be comfortable and feel safe. This is a key factor in the cause of the loss of the motivation to change.
Dr. Carol Dweck has completed masssive amounts of invaluable and ingenious research and some of that research about change comes down to this:
People who believe they can change tend to take more actions to change and often accomplish what they are trying to change. People who don't believe they can change...don't.
Scenario: You want to start your own Coffee Table business. You have dreams of becoming wealthy online. You can see people all around you doing it (and they make it look so easy, too). And yet when you “try,” you don’t get anywhere. You can’t even make enough to cover your lunch.
What happened?
Often times, when it comes to money matters, people have been “programmed” to believe that money is “bad,” and that rich people became that way through unscrupulous means.
Goodness knows that Polish journalists and many business people that I talked with there a few years ago, believed that. AND I can’t remotely blame them because in THEIR history, that is a FACT.
Sadly, the possibility of believing that money could be "non-evil" (it’s really neither good or bad, it simply is a form of exchange) and success as something that happens through building long-term
relationships that last for decades or more…well…the chances of changing to such beliefs are going to be rare and slow to change….
And the same beliefs are true in many cultures and subcultures.
Perhaps parents and friends talked about rich people in a derogatory manner, saying things like, “That Mr. Smith is such a show off driving around in his big fancy car. I don’t know why anyone would want to be rich like that.”
I know I sometimes felt like that when I was a kid…though I rarely saw anyone with a fancy car when I was really young…
Of course, you can look back and realize that it might have been your parents’ and friends’ own limiting beliefs that made them say things like that, or perhaps even a touch (or a ton) of jealousy. But the damage was done. You very well may have spent your growing up years hearing how "evil" it is to be wealthy.
Is it "evil" to be wealthy Is it "evil" to be poor?.... 
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Kevin Hogan
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