Getting What You Want in Life
(Part 3)
By Kevin Hogan
Step 2: Be Clear About Your Reasons
After you become clear about the change you want to make (that was Step One), you want to become clear about your reasons for wanting this change.
Dig down deep, and find the logical and emotional reasons.
What creates massive motivation, compulsion, obsession - "a burning desire" - in you?
For some people there is NOTHING that burns inside, because they’ve never experienced working toward something that was so cool it would take obsession to capture the prize. When people see nothing, dream of nothing, there is nothing to drive for. This person is destined to the hamster wheel ad infinitum. I encourage you to consider doing something that might eventually generate an obsession within. That will be something that engages your own personal direction, personal action, personal planning and personal acquisition process.
It's something that puts you...in control...of your...life.
Don't have that obsession right now?
Know that all is not lost, or even close, but no one writes about what to do in this situation, and this situation is REALLY COMMON.
But, Obsessions are Unhealthy! (Or are they?)
Obsessions by definition are typically viewed by others as "unhealthy". Or worse! It’s OK. Never let others ultimately determine your life script. If others view your obsession as unhealthy, realize you probably are on the right track.
What is important is that the reason motivates you. Does it fire you up? Does it evoke emotion? If so good! Understand the WHY.
If not, it will take a bit more tweaking...
For example, let’s say your goal is lose weight. What you want to change (Step One) is being fat. Don't say "overweight" because that won't create much of a pull on the rubber band. Say, "Fat." That works.
The rational side of your brain says you should lose weight for health reasons. But maybe you’re young and aren’t overly concerned about your health at this point in your life. So the reason "get healthy" simply doesn’t fire you up. Don't worry; it doesn't for most people.
Indeed, if you started on the path to change using that reason as your "excuse" to make changes, you’d fizzle out quickly. Maybe in a few days...or maybe in a few short weeks. Either way, you wouldn’t see your goal of a thinner "healthier" you.
But suppose that deep down, secretly, your real reason for wanting to lose weight is because your ex boyfriend or girlfriend (the one that dumped you) is coming into town in a few months. Truth be told, you want him or her to see how hot you’ve become. You want this person to kick themselves for ever letting you go.
OK, so it sounds a little petty, doesn’t it? But if it fires you up to make the changes, then do it! Keep that reason a secret and make it THE SECRET, reminding yourself often of it. Since it’s such an obsessional and emotional reason for you, chances are you’ll achieve to your goal.
There is one caveat. That obsession will work. You will lose the weight. BUT it’s going to be short-lived.
That means if you want to make lasting changes, you need to ___________ 
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Kevin Hogan
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