Last time, in our mythical story of the husband considering separation from his wife, you learned the steps to framing a new decision once a decision has already been made. (A VERY important subset of decision making!!!)
Our husband had decided to "kick the wife out," until his irritatingly logical friend came for a visit and elicited all the facts of the situation...causing a different decision to take place.
Before we come to this week's chapter in our story, where the wife now seeks her own counsel, we need to QUICKLY review the steps for framing a new decision, when a decision has already been made.
First: Identify the decision that has been made, with its criteria.
("She raises her voice and gets crazy once more, she's out of here.")
Second: Step Back...Way Back, from the Current Frame.
(You need to see the entire picture of the husband, wife, family, kids, relationship, finances and future. You aren't looking at Saturday pixels making up the lower left hand corner of a big movie screen, but the entire picture with scope and magnitude.)
Third: You identify each of the real criteria that have to be weighed if a decision is to be made.
Fourth: Before teasing out what is most important in making the decision, simply list all the factors and don't get hung up on ANYTHING good or bad or how important it is. Just pros and cons.
Fifth: Move away from any emotions, positive or negative, while viewing the entire picture.
(Emotions, positive or negative - skew rational thinking away from good decisions.)
And that's where we left off....
This week, our story opens up at a friend of the wife's home. They are sipping tea. (I wonder what kind of tea...)
"He is such a jerk. I can't believe how he treats me. There is no respect. He sits there on the couch and does nothing while I cook dinner and slave away for him..... I thought slavery was outlawed...I'm so..... angry. I'm going to take the kids and leave him. Get rid of his attitude and everything...forever."
Her girlfriend nods, obviously understanding the pitfalls of the male species being married to one of the monkeys herself...
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Before we come to this week's chapter in our story, where the wife now seeks her own counsel, we need to QUICKLY review the steps for framing a new decision, when a decision has already been made.
