How....You... are Influenced by Them
Part 2
By Kevin Hogan
Are you in the relationship with the person you want to be, right now?
Are you pleased with your annual income knowing it is secure and more than enough?
Are the people you hang out with regularly showing appreciation for the things you do for them?
The answer to those three questions will help you know whether you have been consistently spending your days with the Right People with the Right Stuff.
Influence is Crucial
Subjecting yourself to influence is vital to everyday living. Dr. John Gottman has indicated it's one of the most important factors in nurturing successful relationships.
Conversely, being able to readily influence others is not only the core competency of Emotional Intelligence, it is also crucial to living an effective life. It's crucial to leadership. It's absolutely necessary to achievement in every field.
With every single communication and nuance of influencing, almost no one is aware of the actual messages they are "sending." And far more complex than that difficult scenario is untangling the influences of just one person.... on you!
Many Influence Factors are Hidden
It's a strange fact: All communication influences you.
It's another strange fact: People's words, their body language, their actions are typically and almost always behaviors they are completely unaware of.
Third strange fact: Your very own behaviors and utterances influence your Self whether you "knew what you were saying" or "knew what you were doing"....or not.
That's what is happening that is completely hidden and waiting to be found.
Some messages directed to you are intended to influence. Sometimes those "attempts" succeed, but generally they fail. But the person is trying to influence you (for better or worse!).
What's important for you, is to understand how to make yourself more aware of what you think and do in response to influence attempts. And it's important for you to be able to influence with much greater precision.
Goals and Influence
In this article today we'll refer to "goals" as any behavior or thing someone desires. And in the context of this article a goal is either "active" in any given moment or not. People have lots of goals, many of them of which we are unaware of. In general only one goal is active in any person's mind at one time.
A goal could be something as significant as writing a book or getting a promotion. A goal could be something as simple as wanting to get someone to pass you the asparagus at the Dinner Table. And typically only one is active in any moment.
It turns out that whether you achieve your goals or not is in large part dependent upon the people you come into contact with each day. Your spouse, your friends, the mail man, the newscaster on television.
With a constant barrage of messages and triggers in your environment every moment of every day, you are in large part the beneficiary or victim of your environment, and the people in the environment.
What's behind the Psychology of Influence? ... 
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Kevin Hogan
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