Stop the Ticking Conflict Bomb

by Kevin Hogan

Rules of Engagement

1. People are rarely as benevolent as they perceive themselves to be. (Even you and me!)

2. People are rarely as evil as their opponents perceive them to be.

3. Individuals rarely spend as much time thinking about the issues as they believe.

4. The motivations of others are rarely as planned or thought out as presented. Most aspects of conflict spin off other events, and are not the result of cold-hearted calculation.

5. Every conflict has a history that extends beyond the present. The people and their previous patterns of relating taint the present perception.

Next time a conflict starts, it might be worth asking, "What rule am I breaking?" And then... "What rule of mine is she breaking?"

You figure that out, and it might be a very short conflict!

A New Intelligent (and peaceful) Planet

Now how do you get them to leave "Stupidupon"?

You suggest you each leave your current planets, and reboot on ANOTHER planet. Ask for the person to try to talk to you with a legal pad and pen when they get mad, just a couple times for the heck of it.

Generally, if two people care about the business, or each other, they'll give each other THAT MUCH; and if they don't, it's time to find another business partner or person to live on your planet.

Fact is...they probably hate arguing and fighting. They hate conflict. There are psychopaths who won't put a pad of paper and pen in their hands because they are emotional. Take that as a tip. But, in a quiet moment, most people are agreeable to most things, if you influence them to your way of thinking....

Want to find out the different ways we self-sabotage ourselves? Better yet, want to know how to STOP self-sabotaging, and start achieving? Start here.

Lifestorms: Erasing the 12 Obstacles to Achievement. Overcoming the Paradox of Love, Power, Money and Happiness

Kevin Hogan

You’ve probably noticed that…

• The more you argue for your point of view, the less you are heard.
• That which you fear the most today are often best for you in the long run.
• The more you need money, the harder it is to acquire.
• The more you need that person the more they move away from you.
• The more open you are about your vulnerability the more invulnerable you become.
• The more you protest, the more you get what you protest against.

What you may not know is that we need at least six fundamental needs met to succeed in every aspect of life.

1. Basic Safety

2. Connection to Others

3. Autonomy

4. Self Esteem

5. Self Expression

6. Realistic Limits

Recurring Patterns

You’ve wanted to get your life on track and on purpose for so long. You’ve set your goals and have come up short. You learn the techniques and tools of communication and even influence but still it always seems to happen. You try and make all the changes that could ever be made in a lifetime and then…BOOM! Another lifestorm.

What causes all of this? Does God have some kind of perverted sense of humor that puts the candy in your hand until it comes to your mouth and then he makes it vanish?

No, not at all.

12 Specific Patterns

Could it be true that life is both this “complex and yet simple?” That if you just change a few patterns that everything will be OK?

Life is never easy. But the negative life patterns are impossible to overcome... yes impossible... without stopping the lifestorms that result from the 12 negative life patterns and then replacing them with specific new patterns. Every now and then someone makes something happen by accident. They know what these negative recurring patterns are and figure out a solution without having had the manual to do so. And it’s been through observing the people who figured it out that the everyone else can stop the lifestorms.

How Does it all Begin?

Imagine that you are a child. Age 5. Your Mom and Dad divorce. Your father leaves. Forever. Your grandfather tries to take your father’s place and fill in “the gaps.” Shortly thereafter he dies. Your mother continues to work two jobs to support you, your brothers and your sisters. Just as you begin to like them… babysitters come and go over the next couple of years. Finally you reach adolescence and you have your first love.

She/he is perfect for you. She likes you. You hold on tight. You call them all the time. Several times per day. Everyone else that you ever loved has come and gone or just not been there. You’ve basically been on your own with no one stable in your life and have learned how tough life is by yourself. You’re going to make sure that this person doesn’t leave. But they do. They got constricted. They didn’t feel loved. They felt smothered. They sought advice from others and eventually followed it. You were that kind of person who didn’t trust others they told the one you loved. (Note: Many people want to be called all the time and have an extreme amount of attention, however most people who have this life pattern do not gravitate to those people.)

Finally, “not being able to breathe,” they leave you. You are crushed. Again someone has abandoned you. Everyone leaves. Parents, grandparents, babysitters…and now the love of your life. You have the life pattern of abandonment cut with a chisel into the stone of your mind. This pattern will repeat itself over and over again until you recognize it, break it and reshape a new pattern into your mind. Your mind knows no other way to act or how to deal with the feelings inside. Relationship after relationship is destined to go up in smoke until this abandonment pattern is resolved and repaired and remolded.

Break the Chains

In the case of the abandonment pattern, which you may or may not experience, you find that it also causes specific behaviors in the area of money. For example,there are two common patterns with money that stem from abandonment. The first is the workaholic who saves every penny possible so that no matter who leaves or what happens in life there will always be something to ride out the next lifestorm. The second is that the person simply repeats the pattern with money and spends themselves to bankruptcy on things that can’t possibly help their future. They buy more car than they need. They buy a house they can’t afford. They buy toys that do nothing but cost more money to maintain.

The Patterns are Predictable

Remember when you said something like, “My parents did that to me and I will never do that to anyone.” That’s one of the three ways you react/respond to negative life patterns. You polarize consciously or unconsciously from the things that were “done to you.” This could be a positive reaction but it probably isn’t optimal. Repeating the pattern of your parents/elders/caretakers is another common reaction/response, but again, it probably isn’t optimal. On the continuum of possible behaviors there is usually a point in the middle that is where you really will be able to overcome the negative patterns and reset new successful patterns that will stop self sabotage.

Perhaps you know someone who displays the characteristics of the abandonment life pattern. Perhaps it is you. Recognition of the pattern is the first step toward eliminating self sabotage and staying out of lifestorms. The next step is to identify how you would like to feel and behave instead of your current feelings and behaviors.

If you are feeling a paralyzing fear of abandonment…the feeling that this person too will leave you, what do you want them to feel and what do you want to feel? Both parts are important. You certainly don’t want them to feel smothered. You don’t want them to feel mistrusted as that mistrust will usually move the person to the behavior you mistrust them of. You want to feel secure and you want to behave in such a way that does not make yourself appear to not trust the one you care about. All of these pictures are the beginning of setting the new pattern. You must determine what you want to feel and how you want to behave. You want to determine what message you want to send the one you care about.

In the case of dealing with money with this life pattern, the same process is critical. What do you want to feel about money? What do you want to do with your money? Do you want to buy $5,000 toys and expensive cars or do you want to invest in your self and your future through education and investment? How will you benefit if you do these things by choice instead of repeating the self sabotaging behaviors of the past? How do you want to feel about money? What thoughts do you want to think about money?

Isolate the Trigger

You also will then need to cultivate a set of specific actions that will physically move you forward in the new life pattern. At the end of the day you will record your feelings, thoughts and actions that you had in response to the triggers that you experienced that day. Usually within 45 days you can have mostly eradicated the old self sabotaging behaviors and have installed the new patterns that move you in the direction of your goals, your dreams.

Of course there are 11 other life patterns in addition to that of abandonment. There are patterns that include a general mistrust of others, patterns that create behaviors where you put yourself second to everyone else. Other patterns emerge where you might believe you are entitled to things instead of deserving of them. All of these are examples of patterns that give birth to self-sabotage and are roadblocks that keep virtually everyone from achieving their dreams.

To discover which of the 12 patterns you have been the victim of and how to eliminate self sabotage in your life (or those of your clients) you can pick up the CD program and workbook, Lifestorms: Eliminating the 12 Patterns of Self Sabotage: Installing the Life Patterns that Overcome the Paradox of Love, Money and Happiness.

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and Gurus can't teach what they don't know, but...

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Dear Friend,

Before you lose anymore time following a fruitless goal system...

...and before you even think of putting another dime into a self-improvement course...

PLEASE read over this brief report.

But first...

If you're looking for another program that you can listen to while not paying attention (and not creating a better life for yourself and your loved ones), you might as well keep doing the same old things that the same old gurus prescribe. Maybe this time you'll get a different result.

• Perhaps you shelled out good money for programs you never implemented. And some truly could have changed your life, and the life of your family. But once again, you procrastinated, and failed to follow through. What happened? Now you can not only find out (by reading below), but you'll have the tools to break that pattern forever...
  

• Goals? We all have them... some are more clear than others. It's easy to get excited about making more money, starting a business, finding (or fixing) a relationship. But so few of our goals ever come to fruition. Why? It turns out it's not (until now) your fault. If you want to find out how to take control today, read on...
  

• How many people do you know who keep making the same mistakes over and over and over... They just never learn. Of course, this could never happen to you... There's more to this phenomenon than meets the eye. But the devil's in the details... below
  

Isn't there more to life than all this? You bet there is. We're not talking about those same old affirmations that got you here. When you unplug your negative life patterns you'll be able to live the big life, a life of meaning. Learn how to increase your impact on your family and friends 10 fold, continued...

You won't find this information discussed anywhere else. In fact, it goes deeper than most 'gurus' and self-help authors are able to take you. If you're serious about getting down to the roots of Self-Sabotage, this is the program that will get you to your goals.

But why? You pick the same wrong 'type' of lover again. You were so close to getting the raise when you just had to stick your foot in your mouth right in front of the boss. Why would your subconscious mind play this cruel trick on you?

Well, it turns out that your subconscious is almost too good at protecting you, and the roots of self-sabotage run deep. When you're pushing the edge of your comfort zone, your subconscious will do what ever it takes to keep you 'safe', regardless how senseless and damaging it proves in hindsight.

Remember going to the circus? The sheer size and power of a grown elephant is tremendous. But if you were allowed to watch the elephant grow up, you might notice something peculiar in his training. When the elephant is young, he always is pulling on the chain that holds him, testing the limits. But the enormous chain the trainers use is too strong, even for the mighty baby elephant. Over time, however, the elephant becomes habituated, and stops testing...

By the time the elephant is grown, a mere rope will suffice. But we're much smarter than elephants... right?

The same thing is going on now in your subconscious mind. Patterns you've been acting out since your childhood could be holding you back now. If you don't master these Negative Life Patterns, your Self-Sabotage will continue to keep you from living the life of your design. They will destroy your goals.

And, until now, there was no way for you to take control. Now, for the first time, there's a program that hands you the reins and puts you in the driver's seat of your life.

This is where failure comes from. It's why you procrastinate. Why you sometimes lash out at friends and family. Why you keep making those same mistakes. Imagine how sweet life will be when those things... just don't happen anymore.

Think of what this means for your time management. For your business. For your family. When you wake up, and instead of dreading the Monday, you eagerly go to work on building the life you love, with the people you love. I can't guarantee you'll take action to create this life for yourself. But I can guarantee that you'll have the tools to do it.

There are 12 Negative Life Patterns. It only takes one to devastate your life. I've never met anyone who had less than two. I... had 9. That's a lot. The good news is that I was able, using this program, to eliminate all of those patterns, and now you can too.

Finally, there's a simple system for determining which of these Negative Life Patterns you're living now. (To find out which of the 12 you have, spend a matter of seconds on each using my simple litmus test.)

Then you'll be able to follow a simple formula to unplug each pattern. Plus a method for installing the pattern that is going to create -- literally -- the life you desire for you, and your family.

It's up to you, now, to decide the course of your life. To go deeper into the key to defeating self-sabotage, the key to getting more out of life... and enjoying real peace with your friends and family, you must learn more about Lifestorms.

Please read below to see what this program -- perhaps the most valuable I've produced -- has in store for you...

• “Are Negative Life Patterns genetic?” No, but find out what is, and how that can predispose you to certain types of Self-Sabotage (CD 1, track 3, 3:17)

• Paradoxes of projection. Discover the truth behind “Mistrust will usually move them to the behavior that you mistrust them of” (CD 1, track 1, 40:40). This and other paradoxes described inside could change how you relate to your loved ones forever
  

• Secret strengths hidden in your Negative Life Patterns. Find out what strength you might have developed from the same patterns that threaten to derail your life
  

• A word about ethics: when you recognize Self-Sabotage in others, don't let this power go to your head. What should you do instead? (CD 1 track 3, 0:20)
  

• Why tools of influence and persuasion, and self-improvement, can't work until you do this (CD 1, 1, 28:14)
  

• Emotional Deprivation (CD 2, track 2) is one of the most devasting Negative Life Patterns to live with because it means you can't find fulfillment in any of your relationships. Unplug just this one, and you'll find more love and happiness than you've known...
  

• Feel guilty about procrastinating? Forget it. (Sometimes there are bigger forces at work than just not wanting to deal with something (CD 3, track 6))

• Predict the behavior of others. Once you understand all 12 patterns, you will not only have unparalleled self-knowledge, you'll be able to read and thus predict patterns in others
  

• "The more you need money, the harder it is to get." Not anymore! Once you're aware of the Negative Life Patters, laid out on CDs 2 and 3, you'll be able to plug the leaks in your career that seem to conspire to bring you to financial ruin. You're this close to mastery
  

• See Kevin Hogan (that's me) delivering the keys to moving people into your circle of influence with the 14 components of emotional intelligence, bonus DVD described below...

Before you decide what this program will mean to your life, let me ask you to hold judgement. If you weren't interested in getting ahead in life, with integrity, you wouldn't be here. I won't tell you how to make up your mind, if you agree to weigh the benefits you're about to get against what you will lose by delaying your decision.

First, think back to how some things keep recurring in your life, things that hold you back. Now that you have an idea (from reading through this information) of where that Self-Sabotage comes from... Imagine what it will mean to you, and to all who come in contact with you, to never be slave to that reaction again. Ahh, Freedom.

Next, seriously consider your future, both with and without this freedom. How much is it worth to you to get clear of all the things you do to destroy your life. Think how many $1000s in income are left on the table. Think about what it will mean to the people who look up to you, who often model your patterns -- both good and bad.

Now, you've undoubtedly heard that it's possible to change habits and patterns that you’ve developed over twenty, thirty, forty plus years. And perhaps it is. But to really unplug them and install new patterns takes time. If you're serious about designing the life you love, I've made this as easy for you as possible.

Just listen to the 3 CDs, packed with everything you need to get total control over your Life Patterns, over a weekend. There's a manual with this product to guide you through the exercises. Then spend a few minutes every day for 45 days to keep tabs on the changes your engineering into your life. It's as simple as that.

Further, take a moment to compare that value to the cost of this simple plan for defeating Self-Sabotage forever.

This program is so unique, I don't even know what to compare it to. My original price was $319.97, but I want this to be as widely available to those elite few who are willing to do what it takes to achieve their goals and dreams. While still upholding the value of the work. So, for now, this relatively hidden program is available to you for $177.

I can only imagine what it would have meant to me to have developed this program and gone through it myself ten years earlier.

It's time now to unplug these Negative Life Patterns that are behind your procrastination, your 'status quo' prison.

In short, it's time to harness the power of your
subconscious, and break the ties that hold its elephantine powers in check.

It just wouldn't be a Kevin Hogan product if I didn't overdeliver. Not only do I pack every product with the best, scientifically researched content available, I include supporting materials to make sure you get 10 times the value out of every product.

And because I want to make this easy for you to really hit the ground running on these cosmic personal changes, I've included a DVD which outlines the Negative Life patterns.

But there's more. This DVD was recorded live in front of 200 people, and gives you the 14 Components of Emotional Intelligence. This is huge. Not only will you now have the power to identify patterns of Self-Sabotage in yourself, you'll be able to ramp up your emotional intelligence to 'read' what's going on emotionally in others.

• The Tuna Story. It's hard to move through life without a great deal of social awareness. Learn through a real life example how you can avoid embarrassment that you might not even be aware of (14:33)
• The truth about optimism. Sometimes it's hard to tell if it's a good idea... or just delusion. Find out what belief you need to make it through your hard times (12:14)
  
• "The stupidest people I ever met." Discover what the Washington D.C. Marriott can teach you about "other orientation" in The Ironing Board
  Story (19:56)
  
• Want to make the deals (business and personal) you want without resistance? Not going to happen without this key component (23:56)
  
• Discover what "The Girl in the Yellow Dress" can teach you about empathy. One of Kevin's most treasured stories (37:56)

Even this is not enough. Because you are here, wanting to improve your life, investing in a program to make the world just a little better all around you, I want to offer you a...

Since this program ranks among my 'best kept secrets' -- truly the key to getting the most out of your life and the information I offer for free on my website -- I will include my favorite thing I've ever written. This will change your take on 'the meaning of life' through powerful metaphor. If you're looking for a different model of 'abundance mindset', this will give you just that, through the power of story telling. Look for it in digital form on the Manual CD.

So, when you make the decision to invest in yourself, you'll be getting 3 CDs, outlining the origins of Self-Sabotage, the 6 Fundamental Emotional Needs, the 3 basic responses to the lack of fulfillment, and much more. Also included on the CDs will be a break down of each Negative Life Pattern, where each comes from, how it manifests in your life today, and what possible strengths you may have gained from coping with this pattern, which you did not ask for.

Finally, you'll learn in the CDs how to unplug every Negative Life Pattern in your life. And not only will you be unplugging them (and in less time than you thought possible), you'll learn how to install new patterns... that you did ask for.

And, just to make sure this is foolproof for you, there's a 'troubleshooting' section at the end, just in case.

All of this is supported by a Manual in pdf format, so you can control this process totally. There is supporting text and worksheets that make the process as simple as 1-2-3. Take it with you anywhere, print as many copies of the worksheets as you need.

Don't forget you’ll be getting 1 DVD that not only lays out the Negative Life Patterns for you, it also gives you the power of knowing the 14 Components of Emotional Intelligence. This information is potent enough that you could deliver it, for a substantial fee, to corporations. Indeed, that's what many in the live audience have done.

Then there's the Surprise Bonus. You're going to love that one because of what it will mean to you.

All of this will be shipped to you fast. As a small business owner, I know how important it is to get things done on time. Your order will be rushed out to you usually the same day -- as long as I can get it there before the last shipping time of the day.

Go ahead and reread this letter if you need to. Or you can take the first step to ending Self-Sabotage. Create the life of your desire. Just add Lifestorms to your cart.

                                To your Personal Mastery,

Kevin Hogan

P.S. If you haven't decided to order yet, your subconscious may be working to keep you in your comfort zone. This program is the keystone for building a life of joy and freedom. I urge you not to delay.

P.P.S. If this seems like a lot to take in, go ahead and read through this letter again. The insights you get from this information alone could shift your perspective toward the next breakthrough in your life.

P.P.S. If you found the track times intriguing, you might want to bookmark this page. Because you may want to use it as a reference when you get the program.

"Lifestorms came exactly the right information at the right time for me. In summary, I'm the 50 year old 'unfulfilled potential' and as I've dug up the past patterns over the last few years, I've progressed. But your program made me recognize both patterns and origins I had overlooked. Now I'm becoming free." John Shoemaker, Tallahassee, FL

"One of the things I've learned about psychology and the drives of the unconscious mind is not to immediately trust my strong emotional responses to a situation. In fact, quite often, when I am my most emotionally fraught over a situation, the very VOLUME of the emotion is now a SIGN to me to STOP and think, "heyyyyyyyyy, this is probably a Lifestorm....... I better go review Kevin's CD program and investigate this." Thank GOD I already have a CD program. "When stuff comes up, you KNOW how it can come up quickly! Well, I don't have to wait weeks to discuss it with a therapist by which time it's gotten buried again. I know that when stuff comes up THAT is the best time to address it and work through it. Having Lifestorms enables me to do JUST THAT!! "Thanks Kevin! This is a super power life-changing tool that I use again, again, and again. It's a great Life Best Practice for me to revisit it about once a quarter or every 6 months or so." www.aprilbraswell.com

 

"Lifestorms has become the cornerstone of my personal development library. I'm a big fan of Think and Grow Rich; it's what got me started when I began thinking as an entrepreneur. "But just listening to Lifestorms, even without doing the worksheets, has helped me move forward much faster than I could have. Not only in business, but also with family and friends. All that just from the insight I got from listening. Now I'm going back to uproot permanently each of my own negative life patterns." Sheridan Randolph, Chattanooga, TN

 

Was: $319.97

Just $177

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