The 17 Body Language Signs
of Powerful Men
By Kevin Hogan
Detecting powerin men from body language cues and nonverbal communication
is easier than finding the same in women.
Certain contexts allow us to make power predictions obvious. The President of
the United States in the Oval Office. The power requires no clues beyond the simple.
What happens though when you aren't in the CEO's executive office? How do you know
who has the power at the party or in a group of random people?
That is a different and more difficult task.
I'm going to use a context I enjoy to show you what to look for in neutral or
Let's use a blackjack table in the front part of a casino.
About 80% of players are men. In the photo above, not one of the men
is likely to have any level of power. I see slightly above average income
and nothing else. Three guys that are trying hard.
Finding the powerful men is something that you'll do easily from today going forward.
When I sit down to play cards at a table it usually takes me 30 seconds
to determine who has real power in their life. Powerful men play differently
than random every day men. But I'll wait until the end for those revelations.
For now, I'll use the Blackjack Table as a
place to evaluate men as powerful or not.
more powerful people at blackjack tables around the world than anywhere except
when I've been called on to train and coach UHNWIs. (Ultra High Net Worth Individuals)
Those experiences have happened in castles, private banks and some extraordinary locations.
The blackjack table is a place where men from all walks of life can meet on
an even playing field.
There are men who wish they had power and there are men that do.
Throw away your prejudices and stereotypes as you watch them fall to the ground.
As a side note, powerful women do NOT exhibit the same characteristics as men. The
differences are typically dramatic thus
today we'll stick with the Body Language of Powerful Men.
#1 The first thing that I look for is ornamentation.
The vast majority of truly powerful men
wear very little jewelry. They either have one piece which might be dramatic or none at
all. On average, he flashy guy is a wannabe. The wannabe has a debt load greater than his income would allow
for. There is an exception here. You will see some entertainers in the music
industry adorned in gold necklaces and rings. Some of these men are indeed quite
powerful but generally bling is not a predictor of power.
The guy from the IRS has in office power which is different than personal or financial power.
Unless you're at the IRS you could not care less whether or not someone has in office power.
I am looking for a cluster of cues and signs, of course, not just one ring. That big diamond
on his finger could be worth $50,000 or it could be worth $50. You need a 10 power
microscope to know for sure. So I never make an assumption based upon that. If I
see lots of gold and stones, I know the power here is minimal.
In general, in the United States, powerful men behave the opposite of what most people
would predict. I have played cards with a LOT of powerful and wealthy men. Their dress
can be a pair of jeans and a t-shirt all the way to the other end of the spectrum as
a perfect fitting $10,000 suit. Frankly, fancy suits do not predict power.
What you won't see the powerful guy looking like is someone who is particularly "cool."
He wants to either look good or he just doesn't care what anyone thinks.
I never judge anyone guilty of any income or power level based on their dress. If
someone is sitting next to me at the $100 blackjack table, that means he is going to be betting
at least $10,000 to $100,000 per hour. He's either crazy or he has access to money, at least for today.
#2 Men with power tend to appear relaxed. That is my general indicator #2. If a guy
is playing $100 chips and is in a nice conversation with me and not totally freaking out
or getting too excited which way the game is going, I am positive that he is doing fine.
Wealth predicts power and power predicts wealth.
#3 The powerful man is comfortable being quiet. He's comfortable being engaged. He has
a broad spectrum of behavior. He might tend to be so relaxed that he will randomly
belittle someone but overall the person who has achieved some level of power is
generally socially astute, having some fun and is comfortable in most types of situations.
How do powerful men sit? ...
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