What can you do if you are an argumentative communicator?
Ask more questions.
Be interested in how the other people in your life came to believe and think what they think.
Be aware that not everyone perceives discussion, debate, arguing and fighting in the same way. Find out what those important to you believe about each of these things.
Ask the important people in your life specifically how you can communicate with them to help them know you don't want to argue but discuss.
Determine why you need to be "right" or make someone else "wrong" in heated communications.
Always think of your intention. If your intention is gentle. Speak more quietly. People associate quieter tones and gentler intentions.
Show people you care in ways other than verbally so they know you care when you do argue.
If you find yourself getting into a heated discussion, ask the other person if they feel you are arguing or discussing. Ask what the difference would be for them.
Ask your friend/association/partner how you can communicate without giving the appearance of arguing.
Be certain that you make clear your intention so it is not misunderstood!
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