Getting What You Want:
The Short Course
by Kevin Hogan
Ever wonder why a lot of people never get...almost anything...out of
life?
The lack of having what one wants usually comes down to at least one of two things.
People don't get what they want because people don't know, or, aren't honest with themselves, about what they want in the first place!
Being "honest" with your Self simply means that when you really want something, say children, or a dog, an interesting job, or a whatever...and then the failure comes at ignoring that daily "wish."
Whether fulfilling or ignoring those cravings, they do need to be
considered. They need to be important enough to record, to log,
to think about. And then after much balanced consideration,
decisions can be made. Because those cravings represent at
least a significant part of you...who you are.
Craving French Silk Chocolate Pie daily? Probably need to
look at that and put that on the calendar once per month or
once per quarter. Probably can't pull that off everyday and
that is just fine.
But what if you want something, constantly ignore the
desire and never get it?
That too might be OK. In fact, it might be the only wise
option for life. If you only want kids half the time
you're best off not bringing them to your life in the first place.
Self Discipline is what gets you what you want. And you
can only discipline yourself to get what you want after you
consider it carefully.
KEYPOINT: You must be accurate in IDENTIFYING your "passions," your obsessions...and then if it makes ecological sense to do so,
you must focus your efforts on moving toward each specific driving desire over and over again.
"But wait a minute! I heard that at a seminar..."
No, you didn't. You heard, "...what are your dreams and goals?"
Here's the deal: People have been in the same hamster wheel
for so long they have no idea and have long forgotten dreams of what they want to be they "grow up."
The vast majority of people have never left the centuries old belief that "when you grow up I am going to be "an X"."
The world in 2010 is very different than any previous time in our history.
People live twice as long as they did in the not too distant past.
It's also a different world.
The guy took computer programming in college and mastered Cobol or Fortran, right?
Ouch...that was good for a decade...and then the guy had to figure out, "now what?"
Another guy manufactured audio cassette tapes...and then they were gone.
Obviously, there are a few different lives you are going to live in the new world. Things change quickly...very quickly. The person who is presuming, expecting and anticipating, regular change...is the person who will get what they want in life.
The vast majority of people obviously don't really know what they
want. They certainly don't have the ability to describe how they
feel about their future...except perhaps "uncertain."
Most people have had such a limited range of experiences that they
have no idea whether they would love one thing or another.
And until you have actually played Rock Band...you will be terrible the first 20 times you play...and then all of a sudden...Kevin discovers that elusive
thing called rhythm.
Fear not, your job as a drummer is safe...but I had to feel like an absolute idiot for a couple of weeks learning what you might think would come naturally in a human. I guess not...
There is also a different reason people don't get what they want.
It's because they are "idea people." (Idea people are nice people who are broke, and terrified that you will take their idea and make millions with it.)
Here's the deal.
They are nice people, broke and never get what they want in life, because *everyone* is an "idea people," but there is a huge difference at the point of implementation, continuance, overcoming and completion.
If you *ever* think your idea is "worth a fortune...," well... email when you see the fortune part.
For one moment they're excited over a particular thing or endeavor.
The next thing you know they completely abandon it; either because they
lose their interest or because they give up when they encounter
the first problem inside of themselves or with their grand idea.
Those who always change their minds and those who give up
easily when the going gets tough can never get anywhere.
You will get what you want in life when you realize that you evolve
or you get lost in the shuffle.
And here's the deal....maybe...the "they" is "you." ...and maybe a little direction would be appreciated?
Maybe right now you're a bit confused. You don't seem to know
what you really want in life. Shoot, you might not even HAVE a great idea. You might want to consider these:
- What makes your heart beat with excitement?
- What makes you happy?
- What are you consistently thinking of day & night?
- What do you want to do for the rest of my life?
- What do you enjoy doing?
- What are your obsessions?
- What things make you jump with joy?
Now STOP don't race past this. Take a MINUTE and DO THIS with me. This is not a great idea, it's a formula.
To help you out, just follow these quick steps.
1. Grab an old fashioned piece of paper. Write on this piece of paper all your possible answers for the
seven questions above. Write anything, even seemingly
unimportant ones. Quit when your brain says, "um...i don't know." That way you won't feel like you failed at knowing your Self.
2. Circle 5 to 7 or even 10 of the answers that appeal to you the most.
3. Evaluate and choose with your feelings first, the best one or two
(but no more) things that are worthy to spend all your time &
resources with. The chosen one should really be something
that brings out the best in you.
Why emotion? Feelings?
Because early on in the "Getting What You Want in Life" sequence it's best to
do something for which there will be little or no internal self-sabotage. You can ALWAYS change later or dream NEW dreams. I'd like to see you get the first one down...
Other than the exercise above, you could also ask your close
friends and relatives about their thoughts of how they see you
and what you might be happy doing in the very near future. Other
people often have a view of you and me that is far more accurate
and prophetic than what we might see in ourselves!
How You Feel Matters
Other people may disagree with you, but you
should allow yourself to "be firm" with what you really want. Others may give
comments or advice, but the final decision is always yours to
make. Ultimately, you should concentrate on what you want,
not on what others want for you.
Don't go sleeping tonight without making some "decisions" on
WHAT YOU REALLY WANT IN LIFE MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE!
...because if you do, then your dreams end when you wake up....
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Kevin Hogan
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