A gal goes to borrow money to build a bank. Loans money to people who can't afford it. Some default. Worried? Fear not..."the government" (taxpayers down the block) pays her when they default. She's fine. She makes money. Some of your customers pay their mortgage on time. She makes money.
Now THAT is a smart woman. Why would anyone start any other kind of business?!
But let's pretend that YOU don't qualify to get a loan to build a bank! What then?
Ah well..."The Secret" works for bankers but not you and me....we are back to The Achievement Factors!
Last week, we started with Self Discipline. We could have started anywhere. But it makes sense to start with the core factor of self discipline. Let's recap: Self discipline is not an attitude or a feeling. It is a discipline. It is DO-UNTIL.
Self Discipline is what makes great people great.
Then we talked about Overconfidence and the need for it's eradication.
All of the research shows that under-confident people simply can't achieve. Where there is no belief in the self or it is very small, self discipline never has an opportunity to engage.
On the other side of the continuum, The Over-Confident person OFTEN achieves for a brief period, but then falls and falls hard.
Self Confidence is highly correlated with financial and relationship success.
Overconfidence and arrogance are highly correlated with success and then failure.
Now on to today...
...I'm just like you. I don't like criticism (even "constructive criticism") and I don't like rejection (even constructive rejection....oh yeah...there is no constructive rejection).
Achievement Factor 5: Mastering Criticism
The determining factor in achievement?
Why do kids quit or fail to achieve?
They fail immediately at walking, talking, manners, riding a bike, playing a game, making decisions, adding, subtracting, running into the wall, ...everything. There is nothing a child gets right.
How the parents and the people in the environment deal with that chronic failure (learning experiences) is in large part going to shape that child's potential for success.
"If at first you don't succeed try, try again."
Thank God my Mom got that one right.
Some parents chose to say things like this:
"You will never get it right."
"You are learning disabled, don't worry about it. No one expects you to do a good job."
"You can't do anything right, can you?"
Pick a phrase. They were all destructive.
In large part these statements and the reactions they triggered in you determined whether you went to work for the government or became an entrepreneur.
None of us like to do things that we fail at. We get embarrassed and we get criticized when we do a bad...or sometimes even when we do a good... job.
You work, you love, you play.
You get criticized.
That is the real world.
Most people hear plenty of criticism.
How do you master it all, then turn it to your advantage? To find out, turn the page...
